IF A
COUPLE HAS MARITAL PROBLEMS LET'S KEEP IT REAL, IT'S
PROBABLY THE WIFE'S FAULT.
BUT THAT MIGHT SEEM SUSPICIOUS FOR
ME TO SAY THAT, A GUY.
IF ONLY WE HAD A LITTLE BIT OF COVER.
I
DON'T HAVE ONE, BUT FOX AND
FRIENDS DOES AND WHAT MIGHT BE THE MOST SEXIST SEGMENT THEY
HAVE HAD IN THEIR MANY YEARS OF
BROADCASTING.
YOU WILL SEE IT HERE WITH THE NIECE OF PHYLLIS TALKING ABOUT
WHAT IT IS THAT KILLS MARRIAGES.
OUR NEXT GUEST SAYS THAT IT IS BECAUSE WOMEN ARE WILLING TO
LEAD.
WHAT WOMEN ARE STRUGGLING WITH, ESPECIALLY THE ALPHA
WOMEN, OR THE TYPE A WOMEN, IS THAT THEY STRUGGLE GETTING IN
TOUCH WITH THEIR FEMININE SIDE.
WHEN MEN AND WOMEN ENTER A RELATIONSHIP IN THE BEGINNING
THE MAN IS THE ALPHA AND THE WOMAN IS THE BETA.
THAT IS HOW ALMOST ALL RELATIONSHIPS START.
YOU AS A
MAN MAKE THE PHONE CALL, PAY THE BILL, YOU EVEN ASK THE WOMAN
TO MARRY YOU.
UNLESS IT IS SADIE HAWKINS.
A WOMAN IS MUCH MORE RECEPTIVE TO YOUR ENERGY, THEY ARE ON THE
RECEIVING END.
I THINK WHAT
HAPPENS OVER TIME, ESPECIALLY ONCE KIDS COME IS THAT WOMEN GET
INTO THIS MOTIVE MICROMANAGING EVERYTHING.
BUT IF THEY DON'T
SWITCH OVER INTO WIFE MODE BACK WHERE THEY WERE, I THINK THE
RELATIONSHIP BEGINS TO DETERIORATE.
THAT IS NOT THE WORST.
INITIAL IMPRESSION?
SUZANNE HAS BEEN AROUND FOR A WHILE.
I REMEMBER A FEW YEARS
AGO I INTERVIEWED HER ON A SHOW THAT MEGAN MCCAIN WAS DOING.
IT
WAS DIFFICULT TO HOLD BACK BECAUSE I THINK SHE IS INSANE.
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY I THINK
THAT SHE IS MAKING THE MISTAKE OF ASSUMING THAT ONE
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC IS THE ONLY
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC THAT WORKS.
FIRST OF ALL, THE NOTION THAT A
WOMAN WHO IS IN A TYPE
PERSONALITY HAS A TOUGH TIME FINDING HER FEMININE SIDE IS
RIDICULOUS.
I CONSIDER MYSELF IN A TYPE, THAT IS THE REASON WHY I
DO THIS SHOW.
I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND RESPECT HIM.
ALSO I AM AS
FEMININE AS YOU CAN GET.
IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU MEAN BY FEMININITY.IT'S VERY DIFFICULT ñ
I WANT TO RUN MY MOUTH.
SHE DOESN'T
GET TO TELL WOMEN, OR MEN, WHAT IS APPROPRIATE IN TERMS OF
GENDER NORMS IN THEIR HOUSEHOLD.
DIFFERENT THINGS WORK FOR
DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
JUST BECAUSE SOME BELIEVE IN BEING A LEADER
DOESN'T MEAN SHE DOESN'T
APPRECIATE HER FEMININITY.
THAT IS JUST ALL MUMBO-JUMBO FROM THE
EARLY 1900S.
SHE IS CONSTANTLY TALKING ABOUT WHO WAS GIVING ENERGY AND
RECEIVING ENERGY.
OF COURSE HE GIVES OFF MORE ENERGY, HE HAS
TESTOSTERONE.
LET'S LOOK AT ANOTHER SECTION OF THAT INTERVIEW.
SO THE BETA BECOMES AN ALPHA, AND THEN THE MAN BECOMES
CONFUSED AND MAYBE SHE SHOULD BE THE BETA?
YES.
IN ORDER FOR BATTERIES TO WORK YOU NEED THE POSITIVE AND
THE NEGATIVE ENERGY TO GO
TOGETHER.
TWO POSITIVES, NOT GOOD.
THE GOAL IS TO GET ONE OF EACH.
IF YOU ARE BRINGING THE
ALPHA ENERGY TO THE TABLE AND HE IS AN ALPHA BY NATURE YOU ARE
GOING TO BE LIKE TWO BULLS IN A CHINA SHOP.
AND IF YOU WANT HIM
TO BE THE MORE FEMININE PERSON
IN THE RELATIONSHIP YOU COULD DO THAT BUT IT DOESN'T WORK FOR
MOST PEOPLE BECAUSE WOMEN ARE NATURALLY FEMININE.
YOU ARE POWERFUL WHEN YOU GO TO WORK, WHAT DOES THE HUSBAND
NEED FROM THE WOMAN?
SOFTNESS INSTEAD OF HARDNESS.
HAPPINESS INSTEAD OF ANGER.
BEING MORE COMPLIANT AND LESS DICTATORIAL.
BASICALLY NOT TELLING
HIM WHAT TO DO.
I DON'T KNOW HOW ELSE TO PUT IT.
IN YOUR RESPONSE PLEASE BE COMPLIANT NOT DICTATORIAL.
QUICK COMMENT ABOUT THE FIRST VIDEO, THEY CITE A STATISTIC 69%
OF WOMEN INITIATE THE DIVORCE.
AND DON'T GET INTO ANY NUANCE WHY
WOMEN MIGHT INITIATE A DIVORCE.
HE COULD BE HAVING AFFAIRS, MAY
BE ABUSING HER, MAYBE ISN'T TREATING HER RIGHT.
ALSO THE
RIGHT WING IS SO OBSESSED WITH
BETA AND ALPHA BULLSHIT.
BUT WHAT ABOUT BATTERIES BECAUSE PLUS AND MINUS ñ
TWO MINUS BAD, 2 PLUSES BAD, PLUS AND MINUS
GOOD.
THEY ARE LIKE CAVEMEN.
HEY, IF YOU ARE DATING A ROBOT.
IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE TWO STRONG-MINDED INDIVIDUALS IN A
RELATIONSHIP.
I WOULD KNOW FROM
EXPERIENCE.
ALSO THE IDEA THAT WE ALWAYS HAVE TO AGREE WITH
YOUR PARTNER.
FIRST OF ALL IF YOU ARE A MAN AND YOU BELIEVE IN
THIS GENDER NORMS RELATIONSHIP, WHEN YOU GET KIND OF BORED IF A
WOMAN JUST AGREES WITH
EVERYTHING YOU SAY AND NEVER CHALLENGES YOU?
SHE COULD MAKE A CASE THAT GENERALLY YOU SHOULD BE MORE
COMPLIANT.
BY YOU I MEAN MEN AND
WOMEN.
YES, IT WILL GENERALLY BE A NICE FORCE.
BUT IT IS THAT SHE
IS SAYING YOU DON'T BE WOMAN.
BUT THERE IS ONE MORE SECTION.
AS YOU WATCH THIS, I WANT YOU TO NOT JUST LISTEN BUT WATCH THE
BODY LANGUAGE NOT OF THE WOMAN BEING INTERVIEWED, BUT OF THE
THREE HOSTS.
COMPARE THE BODY LANGUAGE AND FACIAL EXPRESSIONS
OF THE TWO MEN AND THE WOMAN
HOST BECAUSE I THINK THEY SAY MORE THAN THE ACTUAL WORDS.
MEN ARE SIMPLE NOT DUMB.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT?
IT'S IMPORTANT, MEN ARE SO SIMPLE TO LOVE.
ALL THEY WANT IS SEX,
COMPANIONSHIP, AND RESPECT.
AND WOMEN ARE SO COMPLICATED THAT
THEY NEED A WHOLE LOT MORE.
BUT THEY DON'T REALIZE HOW EASY IT
IS IF YOU TAP INTO THAT FEMININITY TO GET THAT MAN TO BE
MORE RECEPTIVE TO WHAT YOU WANT.
I DON'T EXPECT TO HEAR THIS MESSAGE FROM A WOMAN BECAUSE
WE ALL THINK IT'S THE MAN'S PROBLEM.
THAT TO ME IS THE PROBLEM THAT WE ARE CONSTANTLY POINTING
FINGERS AT A MAN.
WHEN I'M SAYING WE ARE THE ONES THAT ARE ACTUALLY KIND OF THE
PROBLEM.
CAN'T IT BE BOTH?
IT'S NOT SO MUCH ñ THE MALE-FEMALE DANCE IS THAT THE
WOMAN KIND OF STEERS THE RELATIONSHIP.
AND MEN FEED OFF
OF THAT.
IF YOU EXUDE POSITIVE ENERGY, THEY ARE VERY RESPONSIVE
TO THAT.
IF YOU'RE COMING IN
WITH ALL THIS NEGATIVITY OR HARDNESS THEN THEY RECOIL.
SO WE CAN LEAVE OUR SOCKS OUT AND WE EXPECT THE WIFE TO
IGNORE IT AFTER A WHILE?
MAYBE YOU SHOULD PUT THEM AWAY AND NOT CAUSE A PROBLEM.
THE SOCKS ARE THERE NOT BECAUSE YOU EXPECT HER TO PICK
THEM UP, BECAUSE YOU JUST DON'T SEE THE SOCKS OR CARE ABOUT
THEM.
THE WHOLE TIME THE WOMAN IN THE RED DRESS IS LIKE, REALLY
SHOULD I REALLY BE HEARING THIS?
AND THE GUYS ARE LIKE SHE IS ON
TO IT HA HA.
THE BOOK IS EXTENSIVELY TO WOMEN.
I THINK A
LOT MORE WILL HAVE IT BOUGHT FOR THEM BY A MAN.
SHE'S THERE FOR
MEN TO TELL THEM YOU ARE RIGHT,
THE WOMAN IS A PROBLEM.
THERE IS A VERY LUCRATIVE BUSINESS MODEL OUT THERE FOR
PUBLIC FIGURES.
THAT IS SAY CRAZY THINGS THAT WILL APPEAL TO
CONSERVATIVE MEN AND YOU WILL GET PAID HANDSOMELY.
I THINK
TOMI LAUREN IS AN EXAMPLE OF THAT.
SHE SAYS CRAZY THINGS THAT
SHE CAN'T EVEN BACKUP HERSELF.
SHE HAS THE FAME THAT SHE HAS AS
A RESULT AND I'M SURE SHE GETS
PAID HANDSOMELY FOR IT.
SUZANNE, I'M NOT EVEN SURE SHE BELIEVES
THE CRAZY THINGS SHE SAYS.
SHE HAS A CAREER AND HAS THESE BOOK
TOURS.
SHE OBVIOUSLY IS NOT FILLING THE ROLE OF A
TRADITIONAL HOUSEWIFE WHICH IS WHAT SHE IS ADVOCATING FOR.
SHE
DOESN'T GENUINELY BELIEVE WHAT
SHE IS SAYING OTHERWISE SHE WOULD BE IN THE KITCHEN BAKING A
CAKE AND SHUTTING HER MOUTH.
BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT SHE IS DOING.
INSTEAD SHE IS RUNNING HER MOUTH ON FOX NEWS AND TALKING ABOUT
HOW WOMEN SHOULD JUST SHUT THE
FUCK UP.
HERE IS THE THING, MARRIAGE IS A CHALLENGING THING
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOW SHARING YOUR
LIFE WITH ANOTHER PERSON AND YOU SHARE EVERY PART OF YOUR LIFE.
YOU SHARE YOUR HOME, YOUR BED,
YOUR FINANCES, EVERYTHING.
INSTEAD OF MARRYING SOMEONE, I'M
GOING TO GIVE EVERYONE BETTER
ADVICE.
INSTEAD OF MARRYING SOMEONE AND THEN CHANGING
YOURSELF YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS IN ORDER TO BECOME MORE COMPATIBLE,
HOW ABOUT DON'T GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT YOU
ARE COMPATIBLE WITH SO YOU ARE NOT FUCKING MISERABLE FOR THE
REST OF YOUR LIFE.
FOR SUZANNE IT IS GREAT TO BE SUBMISSIVE.
YOU DO YOU BOO.
BUT DON'T RUN
AROUND TELL OTHER WOMEN THAT THIS IS WHAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP
SHOULD BE LIKE.
I ACTUALLY DO HAVE A VERY STRONG HUSBAND, A
FUCKING FINE HUSBAND.
I DON'T NEED HER TO TELL ME TO SIT BACK
AND OPEN MY LEGS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MAKE HIM A CAKE AND THAT'S
IT.
I AM SENSING A LITTLE BIT OF HARDNESS FROM YOU, I WOULD LIKE
A LITTLE BIT OF COMPLIANCE YOU LITTLE DICTATOR.
I'M A STRONG WOMAN BUT I ALSO LOVE WHEN SOMEONE PUTS ME IN MY
PLACE WHEN I AM WRONG.
THAT IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH.
I JUST TRIED TO RIGHT THERE.
RIGHT, BUT YOU FAILED.
YOU ARE TOO HARD DAMMIT.
SUZANNE ON FOX ñ THE AVERAGE
VIEWER IS A GUY OLDER THAN YOUR GRANDPA IN A NURSING HOME, AND
AN OLD WHITE MAN.
HE MISSES THE
30S AND HE WANTS IT BACK.
BUT GENERALLY I HAVE DONE VIDEOS FOR
THINK TANK THAT ARE DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE.
I HAVE
ALWAYS SAID THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO REASON THAT YOU SHOULD LISTEN
TO ME ON THIS.
IT IS WEIRD THAT THERE ARE EXPERTS ON EVERYTHING.
RELATIONSHIPS AND SEX ARE THE ONLY THING WHERE YOU HAVE TO
DEMONSTRATE THAT YOU KNOW WHAT
YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT.
YOU CAN SAY YOU ARE AN EXPERT, NOBODY
KNOWS IF YOU REALLY ARE.
YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENS IN RELATIONSHIPS?
YOU DATE SOMEONE,
YOU GET TO KNOW THEM, YOU REALIZE THEY ARE DIFFERENT,
MAYBE IT DOESN'T WORK OUT AND
YOU MOVE ON TO SOMEONE THAT YOU ARE COMPATIBLE WITH.
TO ASSUME
THAT ALL WOMEN SHOULD HAVE THE
EXACT SAME PERSONALITY AND ALL MEN SHOULD HAVE THE SAME
PERSONALITY AND THAT IS THE ONLY WAY RELATIONSHIPS WILL LAST IS
ABSURD.
THERE ARE BAD ACTORS IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP.
THAT IS THE
REASON WHY YOU HAVE PEOPLE FILING FOR DIVORCE.
ALSO PEOPLE
JUST GET MARRIED SOMETIMES WHEN THEY SHOULDN'T OR THEY ARE NOT
READY.
IT'S ACTUALLY A LOT MORE CHALLENGING THAN WHAT HOLLYWOOD
MOVIES WOULD HAVE YOU BELIEVE.
STOP JUDGING EVERYONE.
GET OUT
OF EVERYONE'S LIFE.
HER OPINIONS DON'T MATTER AND AT THE END OF
THE DAY DIFFERENT THINGS WORK
FOR DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
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