What stresses you out so much?
We'll give you a chance to get it off your chest.
As you know, I work for a courier service now.
People get suspicious when I deliver in the evening
because there are so many scams these days.
Some people even refuse to open the door.
The second problem is collecting payment upon delivery.
I tell them,
"I'll transfer the money. Send me your account number."
After that, they ignore my calls
and text messages.
You have to cover that with your own money.
- That's what stresses you out. / - It hasn't been long
- since you started delivering. / - Two months.
You must have drunk alcohol from long before that.
- What stressed you out before that? / - What...
I was in sales in a supermarket before.
The price was fixed for one dollar
but people haggled over the price to get a discount.
When I told them that I can't give them a discount,
people left while saying, "I won't buy it."
That's what stressed you out?
That's one of them. When it comes to fruits,
people picked one up then threw it back on the pile.
It'd be okay right afterwards but later on,
I couldn't sell them because they were bruised.
That's what stresses us out.
- Such things happen often. / - Sir, if people throw
fruits, the owner is the one who's in charge of them.
There are many people who work at supermarkets
besides from you.
All supermarkets in Korea go through such incidents
but people keep working.
Doesn't it mean there are more who endure through that?
I meet a group of people who work in same industry.
It's just me who quit working
but they all enjoy drinking alcohol.
(Is that supposed to be an excuse?)
- What nonsense. / - Anything else regarding alcohol?
When I was in postnatal care center, he even bought
alcohol on his way home after getting off work.
He even drank alcohol at the postnatal care center?
Isn't it prohibited to bring alcohol there?
He hid it under his clothes.
- He loves alcohol. / - Also, when I was almost due,
(She sighs.)
(Why does she sigh again?)
I got a call saying that he was wasted on the street.
I drove there to bring him home. When I helped him
to walk home from the parking lot, we both fell.
When you were almost due?
- How upsetting. / - Being afraid that my baby may
be hurt, I knelt down.
I was really angry.
It was your first baby.
- I couldn't believe him. / - Oh, dear.
Also, not long ago,
he fell on top of my baby who was sleeping.
(He fell on top of my baby.)
- My baby screamed in tears at dawn. / - Oh, dear.
Since then, did he decide
- to cut down on drinking? / - No, that never happened.
I told him, "Get up. What are you doing? Get out."
However, he glared at me and screamed, "Cut it out!"
I was holding my baby but he threw a pillow at me.
- Oh, dear. / - It's because he drank alcohol.
Yes, it's because he was drunk.
Next morning,
he apologized casually, "Is that so? I'm sorry."
(He remained indifferent.)
I do think about abstaining from alcohol.
When evening comes...
But since I must go work the next morning,
I end up drinking alcohol.
Six years ago,
when I was walking on the street after drinking,
I got hit by a car that was driving at 100km per hour.
100km per hour?
- 100km per hour is... / - Your life...
I was unconscious for 15 days.
- You were unconscious? / - Yes, I was unconscious.
Shouldn't you cut down on drinking if that happened?
However, I ended up drinking from that stress.
What stress?
The stress from the dropped apples at the supermarket?
- I think... / - 100km per hour...
- Due to people haggling over the price? / - 100km...
Is it from being hit by a car at 100km per hour?
Being hospitalized itself was stressful.
"Being hospitalized itself".
- Then... / - Well...
I couldn't move for two years at the hospital...
Isn't it stressful for you to speak right now?
(Isn't it stressful for you to speak right now?)
People who like alcohol this much like him
cause trouble to others around them.
That happened a lot.
He often caused trouble from drinking alcohol.
A while ago, since he doesn't work, my dad
told him to do some work together
and took him to a suburb.
However, he went out alone and drank alcohol there.
He got wasted again and passed out on the street.
The policeman called my dad.
My dad was worried that I'd be upset,
so he didn't tell me about the incident.
He eventually told me when he came back to Seoul.
I told my husband,
"How can you call yourself a human?"
(She felt bad for her dad.)
- I hear you. / - That was my limit.
- Right, there's limit. / - Fighting with one's
husband involves blunt conversations at times.
It's rare to do so to one's father-in-law.
Were you stressed out again?
You should drink alcohol when you're not in the city.
I had no friends outside the city.
I didn't think it was right
to drink alcohol with my father-in-law.
That's why I went out alone and drank.
I was smoking outside after paying the bill,
then I fell asleep.
- Passing out on the street... / - On the street
from drinking is embarrassing even if it's only once.
However, you've done that many times.
You've done it in front of your father-in-law too.
You've done it when your wife was almost due.
If I were you, I would quit
- drinking no matter what. / - I'd quit drinking.
I don't think it can get any worse.
Did anything worse happen?
Is there anything worse?
He drinks alcohol every day.
A lot must have happened.
I'd like him to help out
with household work.
When I tell him, "Please do this"
or "Please do the dishes",
he says, "I work."
- "I work." / - "So, you should do it."
- That's what he says. / - How cheap.
Sure, he might say that when he's working
but when he's not working, he should help out.
- Theoretically, yes. / - Even then, he doesn't help.
He'd even ask me to bring water when I'm sleeping.
(Bring me water!)
When you're sleeping?
- Water? / - Getting water stresses him out.
- I nagged. / - Hearing this stresses me out.
"Go get water yourself."
"I'm not your maid."
"You won't bring me water? Then I'll just sleep."
He just slept after becoming sullen.
It's because he was stressed out.
(Was that necessary to make you feel better?)
One day, I had a bad stomachache at dawn,
so I went to the bathroom. My baby woke up
and cried from hunger.
He could've held my baby and soothed her,
- That's right. / - Of course, that's what he must do.
but he screamed instead that I didn't feed him.
He kept lying down on the bed, while my baby
- was crying. / - He just spoke while lying down?
I didn't know that she'd gone to the bathroom.
There are many times when my wife cannot hear
my baby crying after putting him to sleep,
for she watches television or plays video games.
That's why I scream.
You could have soothed your baby, then.
Dads with infants would understand.
You don't hold them because you're afraid
you might hurt them.
- Why would they be hurt? / - We all went through that.
- Do you hold them upside down? / - He's stressed out.
You're making all husbands look bad.
Even though I'm not the husband,
even if I were the guest, I'd hold the baby.
The biggest problem here is that you think
that every man does what you do.
You think it's very common.
- I think most men are like... / - That's not true.
That's what he's thinking.
You must first change that idea.
Let me tell you one thing only.
Who quits working 35 times?
Most people don't do that.
Who doesn't hold his own baby? That's not true.
You keep denying the reality.
Doesn't it stress you out to make excuses?
(Don't you find yourself stressful?)
Ma'am, did you come here with any friends today?
No.
- Are they not here? / - No.
- I told them about it... / - There's someone sighing.
Since my husband keeps
making the same problem,
everyone's turned his back on him.
- There's no colleague. / - Your husband's friends...
Your wife is exhausted from this marriage.
Have you never thought about her losing temper
and giving up on this marriage?
I've never thought about that.
I trust my wife that she won't do such thing.
Let me ask her
since you've never imagined such scenario.
When did you want to give up on your marriage?
Women want love and attention the most
- when they're pregnant. / - That's right.
He's never given me a massage. When I asked him,
he said, "Are you the only one giving birth?"
That's what he said last time.
How pathetic.
My rib was fractured
when I gave birth to my baby.
- From natural birth? / - No, I had Caesarean section.
My baby was born three weeks before the due date,
so she might've been above where she should've been.
It might have been after cutting or what not.
- Two of my ribs were fractured. / - Oh, dear.
- That would've been really tough. / - It hurt a lot.
- Every time I breathed, it was painful. / - Exactly.
I know how that feels, since I was injured recently.
- Both lying down and getting up was hard. / - Exactly.
I waited for my husband to come after work
at the hospital but he didn't come.
One day, I had to use the bathroom at dawn
but I couldn't get up from the bed.
You couldn't move.
I wanted to put strength but I couldn't get up.
I ended up peeing on the bed.
(She peed on the bed since nobody helped her at dawn.)
Why didn't you come?
Since I was in sales back then,
I had to get changed and take shower to get to work.
Most importantly, once I sleep on the extra bed there,
it feels like I didn't sleep at all.
(My goodness.)
There's no one who expects to sleep comfortably there.
Who'd find the extra bed at the hospital comfortable?
There's nobody like that. Everyone struggles.
Even if you can't sleep, you must go to the hospital.
I didn't think that she'd be in that much pain.
- Gosh, I'm stressed out today. / - Then...
If my husband changes, it might be okay.
But if the same stuff keeps happening,
I believe the most important thing between a wife
- and a husband is trust. / - That's right.
Once the trust is destroyed,
(I'm ready to leave him when trust is destroyed.)
I'm ready to leave him whenever possible
with my baby.
This is really serious.
You've heard her story today.
What did that make you think?
I'm relieved that I at least got to realize
and regret what I've done and said all this time.
From now on, I'll work steadily for a long time.
I'll put much effort and try not to be stressed out.
Sweet talk isn't good enough.
You've already made such promises before marriage.
You would've said these when you looked for new jobs.
She wouldn't be able to trust him.
Your wife needs more specific promises.
She wants to hear how exactly you will change.
I've already told my boss that I'll quit working.
- You mean the delivery company? / - Yes, I'm
planning to work at a supermarket again.
I'm seeking a position to work there.
Even though you told your boss that you'd quit,
you could work longer at the delivery company
rather freely if you want, right?
Why don't you keep working until you find a job?
I can work
but it costs 1,000 dollars a month just for the gas.
Even if it costs a lot of money for the gas,
- you will still make money. / - He'd make money.
It wouldn't be as much money as you want
but making even a bit of money continuously
is better than not making any. What do you think?
- You're right. / - Hence, until you find a new job,
- keep working. / - Keep working at your current job.
Alcohol. What are your plans regarding alcohol?
- Alcohol's an important matter. / - That's crucial.
I'll cut down on my drinking
and drink once in three days.
- Once in three days means twice a week.
You mentioned earlier
that you need to drink alcohol to sleep early
so that you can make it to work the next morning.
We've been drinking alcohol for several decades
- and I know that it's nonsense. / - That doesn't work.
- I know that well. / - It's an excuse.
You must develop a habit of sleeping without alcohol.
You must put effort to stop relying on alcohol.
What I'm worried about
is that you promise things too easily.
Don't you think that you're losing to yourself?
What I hate the most is losing to myself.
The promises you've made must be kept.
However, you've lost to yourself for your entire life.
You're used to that, so you don't mind losing again.
Think about how you kept repeating that all your life.
"Should I lose to myself once again?"
- That's the most stressful thing. / - Of course.
Don't lose to yourself.
Lastly, say what you'd like to tell him sincerely.
I know how tough things are for you.
From now on, if you tell me the things you were
upset about me and if there are things you'd like
me to change, I'll put a lot of effort to change.
Please cut down on drinking
and when you start your new job,
please don't quit easily
like the way you did so far.
When you struggle, think about your baby and cheer up.
All right, Jinyoung?
I think it's a worry.
I'm sure you have your own problems to deal with
but you have a family to look after, so be responsible.
I think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry for both the wife
and the husband, please press the button now.
(What does the audience think?)
- In five, four, / - In five, four,
- three, two, one. / - three, two, one.
- Stop. / - Time's up.
Sir,
I wish being here today triggers you to change.
Say what you'd like to tell your wife,
since you can't do so when you're alone with her.
Tell her your honest feelings.
I didn't think I'd be able to get married.
Thank you for marrying a man like me.
Thank you for delivering our adorable baby.
I'll put a lot of effort from now on
to be much better than how I am now.
I'll do my best. I love you.
Let's see how many votes her story got.
"The Job Hopper".
Show us the result.
Her husband changed his job 35 times.
I wish the next job will be the last one.
("The Job Hopper")
(People are surprised.)
- Is it 197 votes? / - Of course, it got over that.
Did it get 197 votes?
(How many votes did it get?)
157 votes.
(Her story got 157 votes.)
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