Hi everybody, this is Gerdi Verwoert
at DareGreatlyCoaching.com.
And today I want to talk to you about embracing the suck.
Now, would it have been great if I were to have
the one who had come up with that expression,
but unfortunately I didn't.
I can't quite remember where I read it, I think it was
on LinkedIn in an article, but apparently embrace
the suck is what rookies have to do during
Navy Seal training and I think it quite nicely covers
what I want to talk about today as well.
Because once you've figured out or really admitted,
you knew this already but once you really admit it
to yourself, that you hate the life you're living,
you hate your job, your career, it may be that
you then come up most of us do actually, lots of us do.
You then come up with two attitudes
towards this realization.
One, you wallow in self-pity, thinking there is no way
I can go and live my life as I want to because I will
head for financial ruin, emotional ruin, relational ruin,
any kind of ruin.
And the other one is you moan a lot.
You moan about how you're not living the life
you want to live, how you're not living, working
the career you want to have, the job you want to have,
but if only you knew what it was that you wanted
to do instead.
And I'm very familiar with that one because I did that
for years, sometimes I'd moan, mostly in my head
and I kept telling myself I didn't know what
I wanted to do.
Until that is, I realized, I was actually in a luxury
position and if you have chosen either one of these
attitudes, you are too.
Because you have the opportunity to use the relative
safety of a job that you perhaps may not like, but still
the safety of a job and a steady paycheck to figure out
what it is you want to do with your life, with your career,
with your job.
That's what I did, once I realized.
It took me a while to get there but once I realized
it I thought this is actually pretty good.
I have a steady paycheck, I know what it is that I'm
supposed to do and I didn't have any, (Hey Sashka!)
I didn't have any further ambitions to go places in
that job but I was comfortable at the level I was at
I knew what I was doing and I didn't have to worry about
furthering my career there.
So what I did was I started taking time to figure out
what it was that I wanted to do.
I sought help, I found myself a coach and therapist
and whatever else I needed and I started figuring
out what was really important to me.
So instead of wallowing in self pity, instead of
moaning to everybody who wants to hear and most of all
yourself, about what it is that you would like to do
if only you knew what it is that you would like to do,
would want to do, what your dream job was,
your dream career, your dream life if only,
if only, if only.
Stop doing that, kick yourself in the butt.
Suck it up.
Lean into it, whatever you want to call it.
And start figuring out what it is you want to be doing
with the rest of your life.
Get with it, get with the program.
Start taking control and be the master of your own fate.
Now this is full of platitudes, and cliches but they
are platitudes and cliches for a reason.
They are true.
You are the only one who has the power to change
your life. You can sit around and wait for, I don't know,
divine intervention, God, the Universe, whatever higher
power it is you believe in.
If that happens, you are one of the very very very
very very very very few that is lucky enough
to have that happen to him or her.
Most of us don't have that luck, don't get that lucky
so take control, start taking control of your own life,
your own destiny.
If you hate your job, if you hate your life, start using
the time you have to figure out what it is that you want
to do and I can tell you from my own experience,
when you do that, you get a boost of energy because
although you're still not exactly where you want to be,
you are taking steps in the right direction.
So, go there, start moving, start figuring out what
things you want to do and if you want some help,
go to DareGreatlyCoaching.com and whatever it is
you want to do, find yourself a coach.
Find yourself somebody to talk to that will help
you figure things out.
You don't need to be Einstein to do this.
I know because I'm definitely not Einstein.
(Although, I do sometimes, I'm very forgetful sometimes.
I always say that I'm in good company because
Einstein was brilliant and brilliant people have that problem.
But that's beside the point.)
So I hope this helps, if you're still in the job,
career, life you don't like, perhaps even hate.
Use it, use that time to start figuring out what
it is you really want.
You can do it.
If I can, if I could, you can too.
That's it for today.
Have a great day.
That's right Sashka, we're both brilliant, you
and me both.
So that's it for today.
As always, go Dare Greatly, have a great evening,
have a great day, whatever, wherever you are.
Enjoy life to the max.
Bye bye.
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