Hey guys in this video I'm going to be sharing with you something very personal,
I just had a private session with a client and I'm going to be sharing it
with you online, now the client gave me permission because he was so moved by
the session and he understood how many people need to see this and how many
people this can really affect and help take them to the next level and just
change their life so he gave me permission to actually put it out there
in understanding the mission that I'm on here. So a bit of background with this
client so basically came to me and he's already been quite successful, so he ran
a business built it up from the ground and sold it by the age of just 22, now
going into a new business he's having a bit more fear, not sure which way do I go
he's having a bit of anxiety he's having a bit of the worry that tends to cause a
lot of sleepless nights so he's trying to make moves towards it but he finds he
always pulls himself back you know when you go forward and something just pulls
you back and you're not quite sure what the hell is going on maybe you
procrastinate, un-warranted maybe you just find some means of self-sabotage really
to screw it all up and the ideas aren't coming to him the way he wants you can't
just take action is way something else that's there, now he's tried so much
self-development he's read the books he's gone to a ton of seminars he's
tried all these things and what I did was I solved it in under 10 minutes in
under 10 minutes I solved it like that and you may have seen me saying videos I
can solve any emotional behavioral pattern you go through in under an hour
I don't BS I get it done every single time and I can say that with
certainty because I've got a track record of results, so tune in I'm gonna
be running you through it and hopefully you can really relate. alright so
pretty much what I'm gonna do is you tell me what is holding
you back, then we will break that down and we'll find out what sort of subconscious
blocks you have so don't freak out. So it's no meditation session? No, none of that.
What this is is finding the root cause so we're gonna find out
the root cause of what holds you back really fast and then later on I'll teach
you how to actually turn it into a strategy so it goes away, yeah sound good
yeah that's so good. So what do you feel is still holding you back at this current
point in terms of thought patterns emotional patterns any self sabotage, any
procrastination anything like that anxiety, stress, procrastination definitely, umm
and I tend to fall back into into patterns of went out back one of us like
comfortable and I was just sitting at home watching YouTube playing video games and
stuff like that ummm that's like it it's kind of an addiction for me this whole
social media YouTube especially now what I think I'm getting for that is that I
usually watch people that are having conversations mm-hmm people that I would
like to hang out with as well that's kind of me connecting with people
because I don't have many people in my life that I can do that with at the
moment mm-hmm just hanging out and I think that's what I'm really missing
like guys that I can hang out with yep that are like minded of course, that I'm gonna
click with and that's why I want to build this business yeah so really what
it comes down to is lacking that sense of connection you'd say yeah cool and
then if you feel that connection isn't there you might lead to like
procrastinating like YouTube stuff like that yeah so even what I sit in my
office at WeWork, like after a while just like you know I just need to talk to someone talk
to me yeah and that's what I often do feel like just going home you know umm, cool
and the irony of that is in order to bridge that gap to actually build the
community you want you need to be able to connect with yourself right to go
forward because otherwise will never happen there's always gonna have this
gap so how what was your relationship like with your mum, now the reason I've
come out of nowhere it seems like it doesn't make any sense where I've said
now your mother what's their relationship like is because I've seen
so many times and I realised this within the first 30 seconds of talking to the
client that his relationship with his parents is the primary issue here
because that tends to be the most common in regards to their connection and as we
establish just in that previous moment the connection he lacks with himself is
what's holding you back to push through self-sabotage and to really kick his new
business venture off okay so I have realised at the very initial stage what
the core is but I'm leading the client slowly towards that solution so I
do this quite often and what you're about to witness is he has a bit of
resistance and that's because I just delve into so much absolute truth that
he gets a bit of shock and that's okay and I slowly lead
him back to the answer. Ummm, pretty troubled yeah it's pretty okay now yeah but I
definitely hold some grudges yeah so it was there ever a time when you're
a kid I'd say between the ages of I'm gonna say 4 and 10 where that's just
most common where you felt like you know what I thought I could really am not
loved here I feel like I'm not really connected to maybe some experience where
if you think back to you like man that really sucked and I came to the conclusion
I was felt you know unloved or left out um there's no specific thing that
happened but there was always a lot of trouble in the family yeah
parents got divorced, what happened was that when I was I was with my dad yeah
he was always
on my mom and I had this really bad image of my mom okay
and they say my father when I was at my mom yeah she would just talk bad about
him and then what I grew up with is pretty much my parents are pretty bad
yeah but at least I had my siblings yeah my sister yeah okay
so you felt like maybe that connection with your mother wasn't quite there where
it could have been ah yeah yeah yeah i think so, okay so what you
may find is like upon your own reflection which is what I'll tell you
to do but there may have been minor instances where any one time you
concluded that that connection was frail with your mother and there wasn't that
love and connection and the problem is what's happened is over that period of
time in your subconscious of you interpret that as this break in the link
right breaking the link of that love and what happens is if you haven't dealt
with that subconsciously that counts as like almost a mini trauma or some mini
event which is like that really hurt and it does hurt and so some people trauma
is as extreme as when I've dealt with people who have been raped and on the other
ends of the spectrum it might be as bad as maybe just your parents you know
not completely being there for you yeah and as a result what's happened and you
probably told me a few grief is you find at times you may just be about to go
forward and then you pull yourself back a little and it's because of an absence
of that love and connection with A) yourself which often is caused by
breaking the link really because it was never established with your
mother so for example now you're finding you're going forward with this business
yeah but something you always feels the need to go to content or procrastinate
and you think about if you go forward you have to face the fact that maybe
that loving connection won't be there because if it doesn't fall for it if
things don't work out yeah and then use subconsciously self-sabotage with
procrastination right that's possible yeah that's very possible.
Now really pay attention here so this split moment that he says well that's
possible that is his last ego's defense okay so really what I'm doing here is
I'm freeing him from his ego and freeing him from a conscious mind not the type
of ego you think where it's very extreme and very flamboyant but rather than one
that beats yourself up so as I'm speaking to him and he says well it's
possible he's whole body language changes his tonality changes he cringes
up into his small version of himself and basically what's happened is I've just
smacked him with so much truth so much hardcore truth about all these
behavioral patterns I've summed up his entire identity in what's been about
five minutes and it's such a shock to his conscious mind that he can't
logically keep up subconsciously he understands all of it he resonates with
it perfectly and noticing he's having snippets of that freedom of that relief
and this is basically me just weeding out the last bits of his ego and you'll
see as we go he finally accepts that part of him and that is able to take
place as we go on. Do you find you finally feel that sometimes it's like you go forward and
something pulls back, ummm
yeah I think so, umm when I yeah I want to start taking action and then sometimes I
think it's just just a waste of time or waste of my time is is actually gonna
work? this is yeah this is actually gonna work? Like that's a question I'm asking
myself like if I wouldn't know this works and it's all gonna work out you
know of course I would be doing it but yeah it's it really comes down to like
wanting that comfort again of like you know just in my little shell and I just
you know. What we've just addressed here is the internal certainty the client
lacks and as a result he's seeking external certainty in the pieces of the
puzzle moving forward he wants to have the business all planned and mapped out
before stepping forward because that's the certainty he lacks within himself
that's the void he has in himself so the problem is it's completely contrary to
what it means to be an entrepreneur which is having complete certainty going
forward and being okay with any uncertainty that arises so what we're
really doing here is establishing that hey this lack of connection has led to
your inability to move forward and as a result when you can't afford what do you
tend to do you tend to procrastinate or just take some other means of filling
your time and do you find sometimes you sit with yourself and it's bit hard to
just be calm, yeah yeah I think I've always been like that
yeah like just be happy with where I am now
and you find you get a bit of that high achiever sort of syndrome where you like
I need to do more more MORE yeah yeah and it always becomes higher outside yeah
like where I am now is where I want it to be couple years ago yeah not a couple years
ago a year ago yeah so now I'm here now what's the next thing this is not enough
yeah yeah I know I'm feeling I'm trying to fill that void yeah me to try myself
to be happy now and already be like hey never achieve anything I should be happy
but yeah really struggling to do that yeah so what you'll find is most
traditional advice will tell you to do positive thinking just all these things
yeah do your life right problem is if that voids there subconsciously you'll
never fix up so it's actually about going back from going back to that root
cause yeah so what it actually comes down to its facing what it hasn't been
dealt with which is years of really not coming to any real conclusion about that
relationship with your mother and probably possibly your father as well
when I cut it off here what we do is we go in design a completely custom
solution for the client here and we make sure he's got a bunch of step-by-step
things he can do to make sure this change actually sticks so what I just
done is I've broken it open I've just broken the pattern completely taking his
conscious mind his ego thrown it out the window
and now what I'm doing is teaching him how to make it stick so he's left the
office in his state of absolutely just pure bliss where he's just happy he's
calm and he's being is authentic so I just teach him how to make sure it never
comes back and it's a very step-by-step process for him you won't have any more
worry you're gonna have any anxiety I'm prompted yeah totally you'll have that
gut feeling back which what will that allow you to do? So much that's right
yeah help you start a business, everything makes everything easy and enjoyable as well
yes that's it man, how do you feel? That I know what to do now so yeah I
don't want to do it but it's not comfortable,
but it's simple yeah yeah but that's like the most important thing
I feel different around you already I feel like ahhh Leon is being Leon and that's
that's why I felt the need to to help you yeah yeah yeah like
there's so much tension in me as well like not like tensed all the time like
there's always a little bit of tension you can't just you know I can be
sometimes yeah whenever on certain people but you know and also for example I have
like problems breathing and stuff like that like becomes very physical yeah
like you know and usually when I think about my my business um what I want to
do I don't get excited like yeah let's do it
I'm like okay yeah no how am I going to to do that? I kind of want to do it but also
there's always that stress that comes with it look like what if I don't
achieve it like what if I yeah what if it's gonna fail yeah like you know it's
not like hey let's just do it I love it I love doing it and then you know that's
all that matters I don't care if I succeed like I can't that I succeed like
I need to succeed in it like that's where the stress comes from the ball
like okay it's succeed yes I have to make it work so
it's really coming back to a good baseline where when things don't work
out okay so myself so happy yeah versus that baseline where you're like oh
yeah big difference and now I remember you
said we said authenticity is what's gonna nail you to be way above the
competition yeah now you can do it with ease you'd have to try anymore
yeah I'm just getting from the camera I guess in that moment you were pretty
like in shock right you're like so much is happening so fast
so I guess run me through what you've figured out now after that session when
you calm down a bit um so I'll actually I always knew that I had these these
grudges and you know I knew that I should fix it you know this relationship
with my parents but that is tied to my business and my procrastination and me
being worried about my success maybe in stress all the time and kind of anxious
and you know worried about my results and stuff like that that really made it
such an important thing for me to fix this issue you know I like just call my
parents and talk to them like because I can do all I want to I can prove my you
know stop procrastination all that type of but right that's all coming from
that issue if I fix that like that's that's the one thing that I need to fix
yeah and then everything else everything else falls into place
so yeah I like it and I'm just like I need to do more of that stuff
what else is in me that is holding me back that I need to fix what other
relationships do I need to fix what what other you know things from my past I
actually holding me back today and on to do that what else can you create now
yeah yeah and I'm just excited about like once I fixed that and I have that
conversation what's gonna happen in my business how am I gonna feel every day
like how's my sleep going to improve because I'm struggling with sleeping and how's
that gonna improve and all that type of stuff like like this could be the game
changer that I needed like literally I like yeah I don't know what to say like
I just I just want to get going and start fixing that stuff
and also dive more into that yeah I'm looking forward to go on this journey
now and really figure out what's what's in it for me and I think what's
important is love you wanna touch on so is this moment where you you opened up
and then you close it up and you thought I tried to say maybe I don't know if
that's it when really I was spot-on I'm always second-guessing myself yeah
and that probably also comes from that you know yeah I'm worried about also
making clear statements of like I think it's this it's like really you know
even with my business like I want to do this but you know I'm not sure I'm just
testing know I know that I want to do this you know think yea when when we
started talk about that I was just like oh that's what I you could see a
scene as well where I started shaking and like my voice are cracking up I was
like you know and fact that was really liberating like I'm I'm really relaxed
right now and I feel more like myself now and I'm not thinking as much as just
like yeah awesome
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