Om Shanti !
The topic for today is,' the solution for family problems,'
the influence of western culture in our families,
it has not only entered but, has created a home for itself,
now when the home has been created, its natural, that she is also one of the members of the family,
so, now that she is one of the members, of the family, so, now for every issue, we have to face struggle,
now a days, parents are not able, to make the children understand, that by spending time on computer, mobile,
how far, you are moving away, from the family,
you are staying alone and a time will come,
when, you will get separated, from the family and become so lonely,
when like a current,you will remember, each member, of the family like a flash,
and it will make you yearn or torment you,
now there is a feeling, that I do not need anyone,
because Google has become their parents,
our religious heads, our favourite deities have become side scenes,
and whenever the children wanted anything, they used to run and come,
to the parents, & used to demand from the mother & father,
that I want this and that, and the parents too, to fulfil the desires and wishes of their children,
they used to be ready even before the children asked,
even before they asked, their desires and wishes were fulfilled,
and had this hope on the children, is there even today,
those children, whom we brought up, by holding their fingers,
we showed them the path, we made them progress,
we made them sit in a position,
but, the same child, today, is not prepared to hold the finger,of the parents,
not ready to keep the parents along with them,
why is there a need to make old age homes?
What is the need for Old Age Homes?
But, children, today, want to stay independent, in their own terms & conditions,
they want to lead a free life,
first, this was the tradition, that, whatever business was done by the parents,
children, also, used to move ahead in the same business,
if the parents are jewellers, then the child will also learn the same business,
if the parents are doing some other business, there are many kinds of business,
but, children of today, whatever business is done by the parents,
they are not interested in that,
they feel, that, there is not enough earnings, in that business,
but, their earnings is in other business,
so they choose a differnt path and the reason for choosing a different path,
they have this feeling, that, when we do the business independently,
then we will get the name, respect and status,
in the olden days, the children,
boys/girls, they had this feeling, that, whatever action I do,
where ever I go whatever business I do,
I should bring fame to my parents' name,
make the name of my parents famous, so, there was this feeling to make the parents proud.
But, now, the parents have become dwarfs and they have become big,
they have made the parents small.
Paryushan, teaches us all these things,
makes us understand, that, how much we discipline ourselves,
the more we become humble,
so, that much we will become great. If we are not disciplined,
if we are not humble and being humble, lovingly, as is said friendship,
brotherhood, these feelings are absent,
then we cannot give love to anyone, nor can we attain love from anyone,
and the family, also has, like, there are rules, laws and morals of action,
similarly the family also has its own laws, rules and decorum,
it has three forms, personal, for the family and from social point of view too,
and every individual has to follow it,
if from among, them, if even one member does not follow them,
then immediately, in the house, there is peacelessness due to that,
if inside the house one person gets angry,
or uses harsh words, then, the atmosphere in the entire house, is one of peacelessness,
that, the peace which existed in the house is gone, and
the peace in everyone's heart, that too is gone,
and in that atmosphere of anger, his wisdom and reasoning is lost,
the strength to take decision, is not present, to identify what is truth & false, is also absent,
but, the family is engrossed, so much in his problems, nature, sanskaar,
that, the family too, is troubled, unhappy & peaceless with that person,
so now what to do? If we go to describe the problems,
there are so many problems in every house,
from small children to elders,
the diseases due to addictions, today, children are so attracted to drugs,
they lie to their parents, children, used to never lie to their parents.
They will lie to everyone, but, with parents, they will always speak the truth,
do right interactions and also do good deeds.
But, now children will first lie to the parents,
later among the friends or with the friends circle,
there, they will speak the truth. Their life style has changed so much,
the way the parents want them to become,
they are not able to make them like that,
they are unable to tell them, that, this is our desire or wish for you,
to tell the desire, too, is an offence for them,
so all these situations, which are created,
whether it is son or from daughters, we feel, that once the girl is married, our worries are over,
only one burden is reduced, that, we have married the girl, in a nice house or in a reputed family,
we have given the daughter, in a recognised family, where she will remain well protected,
but, in that environment what the girl undergoes or does not undergo,
this is a cause for worry, continuously for parents,
if the daughter tells something, then it is fine,
if she does give information, then her request, is not to tell anything in the inlaws house,
or else the issue will worsen,
so we have to see the sorrow of the girl and also teach her to tolerate the unhappiness,
we have to also take and bear the sorrow of the girl,
so there are many problems of the girls, which come before the parents or the family,
and many sorrow, pain, problems of sons,
according to the present times, do come before us,
now the problems are there for sons, daughters, parents and for the entire family,
in the daily chorus of our life, while doing many activities,
the laws, rules, decorum of the society and the traditional family,
which have been determined and are being followed,
and want others to follow it,
and to follow it, is essential and also advantageous,
but neither are they able to follow it, nor make others follow it, or are able to bear, others breaking the laws, rules & decorum,
nor are they able to tolerate it or able to change them,
so what is to be done? Such problems can be resolved through these religious festivals,
which keep coming in between and come every year,
when they come every year they teach us many things,
they enrich us with many powers,
and once again they make us follow the promises made,
and once again, when we are moving on the wrong path,
we get blocked and also understand what is right and what is wrong,
but, understand, think, but there is no strength,
then what to do? Everyone desire,that, during this festival of Paryushan whatever is done,
fasting for 8 days, the penance which is undertaken during these days of Paryushan,
whether physical or spiritual or subtle or from within or from outside,
both kinds of penance, is taught to us by this spiritual austerity,
Paryushan also, teaches us penance, sacrifice, to change,
by individually following the laws, rules, decorum
all this is being taught to us. How to have love for each other, how to develop friendship,
to move ahead with the feeling of brotherhood,
how to not give sorrow to anyone, not to indulge in subtle violence also,
physical violence, is present, which is visible,
beating or killing someone,
to kill someone, that is violence which can be seen,
but, invisible, subtle, violence by hurting someone from inside, how much we do?
how much being slave to anger, greed, pride,
how much we give sorrow, how much inside humans,
even among small children, today, there is ego problem,
even a small child, is not free, from it today,
so, how many bondages, are there, in which we are bound,
so all these bondages are problems for us,
now to liberate the self from all these problems, comes,
this Paryushan, religious festival and other religious festivals,
so this Paryushan, once again reminds us,
that what does our religion tell us?
Dharma iti darayati ,
'Dharma' is the other name for inculcation,
to imbibe, to inculcate it in life, is called as to follow the Dharma,
or religious, but, we have taken the meaning of Dharma to be,
I belong to the Jain religion and daily visit the Derasar or Apasray,
follow the ritual of Pratikraman or whatever the rules for doing penance,
which I follow, daily once I do it,
and I consider myself to be a Jain,
or I am an Hindu or belong to this or that,
but Dharma, says, what you imbibe, then you belong to that Dharma,
whatever Jain religion has given information to you
the rules which Jain religion has given you,
the decorum which is given to you by Jain religion,
the penance taught to us by Jain religion,
whatever instructions and commands we have got, do we follow them?
If we are following them, then we can call ourselves as Jain.
But, if we are not following,
then we have no right, to defame, the name of Jain religion,
so, we have to minutely and deeply,
understand the Jain religion, which is very essential,
that our Jain religion, which I propogate to belong to,
so, what has been told to me by the religious texts of Jain religion,
what have I been instructed to follow in my life?
What kind of penance have I been asked to follow?
If we rearrange the word 'tap' to,'pat,' it means to keep the honour,
so how much do we honour the Jain religion,
now daily, we need to see in the mirror,
in the mirror of my heart, that, whatever, be the instructions and commands of the Jain religion, do I follow it?
If I do not follow it, then I am not a Jain.
So, then what do I do? Paryushan says,
that, the eight days which you get,
some follow ten days, the seven days are for disciplined and dedicated spiritual practice,(sadhana)
and the eighth day is for purification,
for seven days, we follow disciplined and dedicated spiritual practice, which means,
we do penance, make efforts,
this is disciplined and dedicated spiritual practice, means, whatever be the daily routine,
more than that, when we follow certain rules,
do some special penance,
so after doing this, is called as disciplined and dedicated spiritual practice,
disciplined and dedicated spiritual practice, which we need to win, meaning till the time we do not achieve success,
with complete determination and tirelessly,
not to become tired, tirelessly, we continue to do it,
and by doing this, we achieve success,
and the one who attains success,
that successful person is praised,
if you do not attain success,
if the disciplined and dedicated spiritual practice, is left in between,
then this unaccomplished efforts, do not allow us to become anyone,
we come down from how much we have gained,
so, this Paryushan, for our spiritual progress and for us to make progress in our life,
helps and teaches us and in these days of Paryushan,
we have to have a firm thought, of doing this, dedicated spiritual practice for seven days,
with a determined thought and firmness,
we need to continue it tirelessly,
if I do not go daily to Derasar or Apashray,
or whatever be the commands of Jain religion, daily,
if I do not follow it, then I should follow them,
while following them, there will be many kinds of obstacles,
problems, I should fight them and face them,
by facing them, I need to be victorious.
So, today, is the first day and on this first day,
you are invited, that whatever changes, you want in your life,
Paryushan is that blessing, those who, in the days of Paryushan,
with a determined thought, whoever, for penance, dedicated spiritual practice or efforts,
and those who follow the penance, rules, laws of decorum,
for seven days regularly, then, it will be included in your disciplined efforts made,
your penance will be rewarded and on the last day, of attaining success, by asking for forgiveness,
you ask everyone to forgive, because,
as we want to forget the past unhappy incidents,
and the happy incidents which happened, why did it happen?
By remembering them, we do the same things,
through which we are happy and other souls, too are happy,
whatever sinful actions and mistakes have happened with each other,
we by asking for forgiveness to each other,
the burden of sins over us,
we liberate the self from this burden,
and also liberate others.
So, Paryushan asks us to do disciplined and dedicated efforts for seven days,
bring about change and on the eighth day of success, celebrate the day of forgiveness,
ask for forgiveness to everyone and do not raise the ego problem,
by being humble and by asking forgiveness to everyone,
from the heart and honestly, not that, as it is day of forgiveness, I have to ask everyone to forgive,
no, from the heart and honestly ask them to forgive us,
and once again that mistake or sin should not be done by me,
we should have a firm determination in our mind.
So, the one who is determined, he is always victorious,
and so, Paryushan, is a festival to make us win,
it is believed to be King of all festivals,
as the King has his kingdom,
similarly, in your life, the empire of peace and happiness,
you by taking this empire in your hands,
you by being the King can lead your life in happiness and peace.
Om Shanti !
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