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How to Deal With Friend Drama
okay guys this week's video is a little more serious than normal most of my
videos are comedy or more lighthearted and today's also light-hearted but it's
not as funny I want this video to be more relatable and maybe teach you guys
more about my experiences with friends and how to deal with drama and stuff
because trust me honey I have dealt with my fair share of drama and friendships
and all those kinds of things and I'm gonna tell you about some of the things
and how to deal with that today so without further ado let's go ahead and
get on with the video okay guys so when I was in middle school
obviously I had a great set of friends and I would hang out with them all the
time because they are my friends and that's what you do with friends hanging
out and that's a friends too and you're there for each other and whatever so for
me when I went from elementary school to middle school I have one year of middle
school in my elementary school so I took sixth grade in my
elementary school and then I moved to a brand new middle school in seventh grade
and so when you're in a new school it's already hard enough to be the new girl
or if everyone's new in sixth grade it's really hard but for me I was new in
seventh grade and everyone had already made their friends in sixth grade so I
was literally a stress ball and I was terrified because I I guess you could
say I was a social person but in a new environment in a completely new
environment with completely new people I've never met before
that's scary so I kind of made my way into friend groups and stuff like that I
have those friends for middle school some of them moved on with me to high
school and then obviously in high school you meet a bunch of new people and all
those other things and you have to remember that friends come and go
throughout your life and I've learned that a lot but that's a good thing
because if I wasn't friends with people in elementary school that took me to
people in middle school that took me to the people in high school that took me
to the people the other people that I met in high school and the friends that
I have now I wouldn't be the same person as I am now which is like weird to think
about but every friend I've had I feel like has influenced me or taught me a
lot but they need all the people who have
been in and out of my life I just want to say that because I've definitely
learned a lot and yeah it's pretty good and also you don't have to keep the same
exact friends through your entire life obviously it's good to have a closed set
of friends but your closed set of friends now might not be your closed set
of friends in a million my not your set of friends in ten years or five years
even or maybe even next year I mean I hope obviously everyone hopes to like
keep those friendships for a long time but I don't think that I don't know live
in the moment it doesn't need to be like you're my best friend for life
like obviously it's great time best friends but I'm just saying like
honestly from experience my friends from elementary school I probably don't even
if I saw them in the mall I probably wouldn't even know what they were
anymore people change and that's fine not to say that I don't still keep in
touch with people from elementary school or middle school or people who I'm not
super close with now I still do talk to those people but I'm saying that you'll
meet new people through your walk of life and it's fine it's okay to have
other friends and other friend groups and know people from different times in
your life and I think that's really cool because then you have like a bigger
family okay moving on to drama so we talked about friends and how they come
and go but drama is how they go basically and also sometimes how that
how friends come into your life too so obviously there's like elementary school
drama or it's like he said she said then she told me that I said that she said
that you were like mean what do you have to say so I can go tell back to her okay
that's like elementary school drama middle school drama I kind of feel like
it's the same middle school drama it's all drama it's all the same but for
example in high school I've learned a lot about communication okay so let me
give you a little bit of a story time so I have this friend she's one of my best
friends basically one day we were fine and all of a sudden I get a text from
her saying why are you mad at me and I was like
what and in my mind nothing went wrong I did nothing and she thought it was
matter her and I literally I was like I texted her back and I was like bro like
what I thought we were good bro like are you good for Lucas what
anyway the end result I actually found this out after talking to her in person
because texting let me tell you if you're having drama do not do it over
text well basically you can't tell a tone of a text so if I texted her I'm
not mad that could be why not mad why would you think I'm mad or that could be
I'm not mad and obviously she would probably think the one where it's like
I'm not mad and she did so then I talked to her in person and I found out that I
gave her a look apparently in high school everyone walks around looking
like zombies anyway so if I happen to see her in the hallway and went like
this then I just thought that was just like that was just my resting face in
the hallway what can I say so she took that look as I looked at her
the wrong way and I was mad at her well after we talked it out and this happened
a few more times after that anyway now we know how to communicate with each
other and I feel like we've both matured a lot and now we're super close and it's
great so communication it's important so aside from gaining friends I've also
lost my fair share of friends trust me and I've also had people hate on me for
no reason which you know in my mind if they're talking crap about me they're
talking about me they're using their energy to talk about me when I am NOT
talking about them because I could care less so
and on that note obviously if someone doesn't like you if someone's against
you they're gonna talk they're gonna talk not only to their close friends
they're gonna talk not only behind your back to their circle they're gonna talk
to everyone they know to make sure rumors and gossip get spread that you
are a terrible person or that you did this thing wrong or that you look this
way or a bunch of negative stuff about you you should be proud that they are
talking about you when you aren't talking about them because that's their
thing they can talk my advice on that is put your best foot forward if they're
making people think a certain way about you show that other people that you are
not like that like I try to be as positive as possible obviously I have my
office days obviously I can be super lazy and just not happy one day I could
be stressed one day and I'm stressed trust me and I'm stressed a lot of days
and I'm unhappy a lot of days too but even on those days I try to put my
best foot forward kill people with kindness the bully is the haters and the
people who they're spreading rumors to they aren't even gonna matter in months
to months years or later on in your life I know I said live in the moment before
and live in the moment be happy but if these people are really like don't
it doesn't matter what they think it really doesn't and I know right now if
you're dealing with something it's like everyone hates me like everyone I care
about this so much and trust me I've shed a lot of tears over that thought
but you just have to remember that the people who stick with you are the ones
who matter so the ones who you're gonna be friends with in five to ten years
those are the people who matter and I know like right now you're probably like
well how do I know if I'm gonna be friends of them in five 10 years or what
if they're mean to me okay first of all if they're means you they shouldn't be
your friends friends do not talk crap about friends friends do not indirect
their friends on social media just be positive and I know that's easier said
than done but if you find your confidence
it'll show through and yeah so I hope my advice helped and
I will see you guys in my next video bye
Hashtag Zoe
How to deal with girl drama
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