Wouldn't it be amazing if you never cared what anyone thought of you ever?
No, you'd be a psychopath!
Those are the only type people in this world that don't care what people think of them.
You want to care what people think of you.
But I imagine you care a little bit too much, and I've struggled with that.
Today we're going to be discussing four ways on how to stop caring as much what people
think of you so that you can pursue your goals, pursue your dreams and live your authentic
life.
Let's discuss the first way now.
Number one, have 3 AM insurance.
When you're insured, you have peace of mind.
But when you don't, you're in trouble.
Weks ago I did not fill out my health insurance renewal form properly and I found out that
I was going to go weeks without insurance.
I'm relatively healthy.
I don't think about going to the hospital or getting injured.
But when I was uninsured, you better believe I was terrified, living in a bubble, had so
much caution.
And I feel maybe that's why you're not going after your dream; you don't have insurance
- 3 AM insurance.
What I mean by this?
When it's three morning and you need somebody, you pick up the phone, how many people would
answer your call?
That's the insurance you need my friend.
you see the masses, when you try to do something and people make fun of you or they criticize
you, when you're insured, when you know you have a select number of people in your life
who love you no matter what, it gives you peace of mind.
I think that when I started motivational speaking.
I thought people would think I was lame or a loser.
And the times I've spoken in front of hundreds of people, that's what I would tell myself
before going.
Everyone could laugh at me.
I can make an idiot of myself.
But I have peace of mind because I'm insured because I have my mom, I have my dad and my
best buddy Ben, I have God in my life.
All these things that you tell yourself to know that you're insured when it's not working
out when you're failing.
And there's people in your Life who are there for you.
That's all you need.
Stop caring so much what all these people think and focus on that 3 AM crew who will
be there for you no matter what.
Number two, have Buble moments.
I think what causes so much stress in your life is when your authentic self is not in
line with what people expect from you.
That's where Michael Buble comes in.
you see I'm a huge fan, I think he has a voice of an angel but I haven't been always comfortable
admitting it.
Years ago I would go to the gym and I'd want to listen to his music but I wouldn't play
it because I was terrified of the other young guys teasing me for listening to music that
was not masculine.
But I wasn't feeling so great about my life, I was a little down and I kept hearing about
people on their deathbed saying that one of their regrets is not living their authentic
life.
So I decided this was a small step for me, admitting I was a Buble fan.
I went on Facebook and I made a post, 'I think Michael Buble is amazing.
You can't listen to his music and be depressed at the same time.'
I made many posts over the years, somewhat inspiring quotes, original ideas and I'm here
to tell you I've never gotten more likes than that Buble post.
That's when I realized you need to Buble moments in your life.
Your authentic self is not going to be in line with the status quo, with the norm and
you have to be ok with that.
But take baby steps.
Maybe admitting your favorite music or whatever it is that's not in line with how you think
you should be.
There's three benefits here; one, you'll realize that people will probably like you
more for it.
Two, people won't care as much as you think they do.
And three, you'll give people the courage to have a Buble moments of their own.
So remember when you're not being your authentic self, there's tremendous strain.
To get over that you have to have Buble moments.
Number three, be Clark Kent.
When you're not getting the validation you seek, you try to be a superhero don't you?
I know I've struggled with this and I still struggle with it somewhat.
For years, my ritual before going on a date was going to the gym, working out my arms
really good, my chest, my whole body.
I'd wear an extremely tight shirt so that the guns were poppin'.
Such an idiot.
And I see it clearly now.
But because I didn't believe the girl would like me for who I was, I thought I had to
pump myself up.
I even did this with previous YouTube videos.
If you see, I'm in a dapper suit.
I thought the only way people would listen to me is if I was suited up.
And maybe you feel this way too...you have to be a super hero.
That is the only way people will like you, if you have something great; a skill, a talent
that you can offer.
No one would ever want to be friends with Clarke Kent.
A friend pointed out to me that this is my problem and this is your problem; trying too
hard to be a superhero.
People don't need a superhero.
What would be really super if you could just be yourself and do what your heart calls you
to do.
And this past couple months I've gone on dates wearing a V-neck, no suits, no gym workout
and they've been working well.
I've made You Tube videos just being myself, sharing ideas that are original and true to
who I am and it's been going well.
So my point being, you don't need to be a superhero.
Have the courage to be Clark Kent.
And the fourth that and find a way on how to stop caring as much what people think of
you redefine success.
I don't know what your definition is but recently I've changed it to 'do the right thing'.
And I test this out time and time again by what I call the mama test.
Whatever you're doing, day or night, week in - week out, if your mom was watching would
she approve with what you're doing.
And if the answer is yes, then proceed.
I've come to realize that sometimes you do the right thing.
You could be a person of integrity.
You can be nice and it doesn't work out where you get that external validation.
You get that external success that you're seeking.
But oftentimes success is a long game.
And if you do the right thing day in day out, you'll sleep soundly at night.
I've made this mistake with caring too much what people thought of me.
All I cared about was money.
so I went to school, racked up a ton a student loan debt, over six figures of debt, got a
great job but I wanted to teach.
But I thought that people would never respect someone who makes so little money.
I redefined success and in my heart it's to be a teacher.
And maybe in your heart whatever your dream is, that is the right thing for you.
My friend, I hope these four tips help you.
And if you're looking for more, subscribe to my channel today by hitting that icon there.
This is Michael Unks from Every Day Elevation Rising Higher Every Day.
Hope you enjoy this video and I'll see you in the next one.
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