"Never A Peaceful Day."
"Hello. I'm a boy in middle school.
Grownups are such a pain in the butt.
My 50-year-old father
is an alcoholic who drinks all year long.
He causes trouble every time he drinks.
'Son! Your father peed in the sink last night.
It just reeks everywhere.'
'Son, your father got drunk and fell down.
He broke his tooth.
I'm sick and tired of this.'
My mother is angry all the time.
The problem is she complains to me.
I'm only 15 years old. What does she want from me?
So every night,
'Alcohol every night! Can't you just quit?'
'You always nag at me. I'm so sick of it!'
'Mom. Dad. Please do not fight.'
'Go to your room!'
Every time they fight.
I am psychologically hurt.
I'm embarrassed, but I'm being brave sending this in.
Please help my family find peace on Hello Counselor."
(It's a serious concern)
He is at that age where he's sensitive
so it isn't easy to reveal such a concern.
He made a big decision to be here.
Please bring him out. Come out, please.
(Who is tired of his parents arguing?)
(Choi Jeongwu)
Please introduce yourself.
(I'm so nervous)
Hello. I'm Choi Jeongwu and I'm 15 years old.
(He puts his head down)
Jeongwu.
He asked us to do something.
He doesn't want the MCs or guests
to stare at his face.
- Why? / - The audience can't help but look.
- He said he's too nervous. / - Why?
You're staring at him, Eunhyuk.
Don't. Don't. (Punishment)
I just wanted to know why.
Why are you here today?
Where should we look when we talk?
Why did you ask for that? Are you too nervous?
I can't talk.
- Because you're nervous? / - Yes.
- If we look at you? / - He's nervous.
I'm reading your concern. I can't look at you?
You don't want me to?
We're not bad people.
Okay. Let me know when you feel comfortable.
How often does your dad drink?
All year long. Every day.
2 bottles of soju every day.
I'm sure he doesn't drink every single day.
He does.
- Really? / - Yes.
So he drinks every night.
What happens?
I'm home late at night and dad comes home.
He gets the code to our front door wrong.
He keeps pressing the buttons?
- He gets it wrong. / - Speak louder, please.
Okay!
How cute.
He bangs on the door.
He makes strange noises at night.
It scares me.
You're scared because he yells at night.
I have to study late at night during exam periods,
so I'm studying when he comes home.
He keeps telling me that I don't need to study.
He tells you that you don't need to study?
"Don't study! You don't need it!"
He's a great dad!
Is that something to be grateful for?
It makes me want to study more.
I think your dad is doing that on purpose.
He's a professional.
Since when has he been drinking?
From what I heard, he drank even before I was born.
- He loves to drink. / - He's always been drunk.
That doesn't sound so bad.
It doesn't sound serious.
That's not all.
He drinks and causes trouble.
- What trouble? / - How?
Uh...
What are you doing?
He's humming all of a sudden.
(I'm so nervous)
Like I said earlier
he pees off the balcony or the sink.
The balcony or the sink.
He doesn't end up at the police station?
I guess he doesn't get in fights.
Once a long time ago,
we got a call from the police that
my dad was sleeping on the street.
That's dangerous.
I was young so I went with my mom.
I remember my mom helping my dad walk.
So why did you decide to
come on our program all of a sudden?
My dad gets drunk and instigates fights
with my mom. So they fight.
Your parents fight.
How do they fight? Loudly?
(Hesitant)
Oh, I'm not supposed to look at you.
Do they fight loudly?
So they fight.
They cuss at each other.
He cusses.
They exchange blows.
- Exchange blows? / - Exchange blows?
That means they both punch each other?
I guess so.
How does it make you feel when they fight?
- I get scared. / - Sure.
(Sigh)
It's scary.
Then what do you do?
When I was in elementary school
I shared a room with my parents.
So I would hide in my sister's room.
Now I have my own room.
So I go into my room and cover my ears
or listen to music with headphones on.
You should've gone to an internet cafe.
You've never been?
No. Then he'll end up spending $80,000.
It saddens me.
There are kids who are born timid, but
he can't make eye contact, he lacks confidence
- and he can't speak up. / - He's intimidated.
It looks like this is the result of seeing
his parents fight for years. It saddens me.
Above everything else,
what do you think about when you cover your ears?
What do you think about when you do that?
I just want the fight to be over.
It's mentally so hard for me.
Sure. That's the biggest problem.
Let's talk to the parents and find out why they fight.
Hello, sir.
Hello.
Do you understand your son's concern?
I never thought it was a serious concern.
Everyone who sits there says that.
Do you really drink every day?
I'm not a heavy drinker. 2 bottles a day.
If you've been drinking 2 bottles a day
every day for decades, that's a lot.
Why do you drink every day?
I work in the furniture industry.
I load so much furniture on a 1-ton truck and
deliver them to more than 10 places.
It's physically exhausting
and I have to deal with customers.
But you don't work every single day.
You have days off.
You don't get stressed at home, right?
Sure.
Then why do you drink when you're at home?
There's a convenience store in front of our home
so I just buy a bottle or two.
We like to drink as well.
You don't drink because you're stressed.
You drink because you like to drink.
You drink because it's raining or it's a good day...
Or because it's not a good day.
You drink because the day is just right.
You drink because you're happy.
You're addicted.
Do you remember causing those incidents?
Yes, I do.
Why did you end up at the police station then?
I fell asleep on the street.
If you remember, then why did you fall asleep there?
I black out at times...
Then you can't say you remember it.
What about you breaking your tooth?
It may sound like an excuse, but someone else
pushed me and I fell down.
You don't remember it in detail, right?
No.
Then you don't remember it.
Because if you remember everything,
you would know how horrific it is
and wouldn't do it again.
You must change that.
But his biggest concern is that you fight all the time.
He says he remembers his mom
helping you walk out of the police station.
How do you feel?
I didn't know.
You found out just now?
I am sorry and regretful.
You are so difficult to talk to right now
that he wasn't able to open up to you.
Imagine him covering his ears alone in his room.
He's so young.
Let's talk to the mother.
Hello.
Hello.
I'm sure you have a lot to say, too.
I do have a lot to say.
You can go ahead and say everything.
When we just got married, he often
came home drunk. He was like a dog.
On payday, I couldn't get a hold of him.
On payday?
He didn't come home.
I had to buy formula and food.
So I had to borrow money from my mom.
Then the next day, he couldn't go to work.
Sure. It affects the next day, too.
He has been fired before and
we've been kicked out because we couldn't pay rent.
He must've drunk a lot when he was young.
Yes, he did.
What about that police station story?
Jeongwu was a baby, so he was next to me.
Then I got a call.
I thought it was my husband but it was
an officer telling me to take my husband home.
Jeongwu was five. I couldn't leave him
at home, so I took him with me.
You remember what happened when you were 5?
I didn't know he remembered that.
How do you feel now?
I am shocked.
I didn't think he would remember since he was so young.
Did you know that he suffers from your fights?
That's the bigger problem here.
Yes, I knew to a certain extent.
When we're asleep and my husband comes home,
he turns on the light and instigates a fight
because he's upset with me or someone else.
So I get angry and tell him not to drink anymore.
That turns into a fight.
You don't have to come home
and take your anger out on them.
The biggest reason for us fighting
is that my wife isn't friendly to me.
There's no need to be friendly to a drunk.
That's strange.
She is never friendly with me.
When I go home drunk
she does the thing I hate the most.
What's that?
She brings up the past when we fight or
compares me to someone else.
Then my temper comes out with the alcohol and
I get angry at her.
You nag even when he isn't starting a fight?
Because you don't like to see him drink.
I always tell myself not to nag at him today,
but he never does any chores at home.
I work as a nurse in 3 shifts.
- You work. / - Three shifts. That's tough.
I wake my children up at 7 a.m.
and make them breakfast before they go to school.
I cook, do the laundry,
prepare dinner. Then I come home at 10 p.m.
- That's tough. / - He said he drinks at home, too.
Then dirty dishes pile up.
So as soon as I come home...
- He doesn't help out? / - Not at all.
That's terrible, sir.
She has a job, too.
Couldn't you at least do the dishes?
On my off days, I go hiking and
have a drink for brunch.
So you take a nap and drink again in the evening.
When did it get the worst?
About 2-3 years ago
I left home for about 3 months.
I left and filed for a divorce.
My wife felt like she was at fault, too,
so she wrote me a letter to come back home.
So I decided to work things out and came back home.
You haven't changed since then?
I started to forget what I promised
and started to drink again.
So your old habits returned.
Do you talk to your wife when you're sober?
If I come home sober,
it's so quiet, like no one is home.
They don't communicate.
No one was born that way.
You've never tried to communicate.
If you drink less during the week
you could talk to your son and your wife.
The family can communicate and
want to get to know each other more.
But no one is stepping up first to do so
and everyone feels awkward.
I'm curious.
Do Jeongwu, his older sister and the two of you
have a family chat room?
- No. / - I didn't think so.
It's hard to strike up a conversation at first,
so it may be nice to start by chatting through texts.
That's a great idea.
What do you think, Jeongwu?
What do you think of the family chat room, Jeongwu?
We've tried that before.
Who made the chatroom?
- My sister. / - She tried.
But my dad left the chatroom right away.
Why did you do that?
Did you leave after you said what you wanted to?
There was one? I didn't know.
Maybe he left by mistake.
I think he doesn't know how to work his phone.
Were you shocked when he left the room?
Yes, I was.
I thought he didn't want to communicate with us.
Then why didn't you say anything about it?
I was afraid he'd get angry since he drinks every day.
- She was afraid. / - It's a vicious cycle.
(Will we ever be a harmonious family?)
What do you remember about your dad?
He's either drinking at home,
sleeping after getting drunk or watching television.
(That's all?)
Watching television? That's it?
Have you ever seen him completely sober?
- When he wakes up. / - In the evening, not morning.
(Of course he's sober then)
- At night. / - He can't drink when he wakes up.
(Embarrassed)
- No. / - No?
When was the last time you had fun with him?
Good memories.
Good memories...
You have to think about it...
I don't remember.
(Shocked)
(Jeongwu only remembers his dad drunk)
What good things do you remember about your mom?
When she comes home from work,
she calls my name.
"Jeongwu, I'm home." Like that.
- You like that? / - Yes.
Do you feel bad for your mom?
Yes.
She's always working.
Isn't that heartbreaking though?
His best memory of her is when she
calls out his name after work.
(Shouldn't you try to change for Jeongwu?)
Since that's how Jeongwu feels
we really should try not to argue.
Of course.
From today on...
You want to make things better, right?
Yes, that's why we are here today.
Can you make a promise for your wife and Jeongwu,
saying what you'll do for them?
I'd like to say that I will quit drinking.
That's impossible.
- I think that's impossible. / - Sure.
You drunkards.
You will drink less?
Maybe just 2-3 times a week?
I will try to drink only 3 times a week.
It's a promise.
(Really?)
I will help out your mom.
How will you help her? Doing the dishes?
Yes. I will do the dishes every evening after work.
You can't do that if you drink.
- What? / - You can't do that if you drink.
If I have to drink I will do the dishes first and drink.
Do you think he can keep that promise?
I think doing it every day will be difficult.
It'd be nice if he could do it 3-4 times a week.
Let's make a realistic promise.
Okay.
What will you promise, ma'am?
If my husband keeps his promise...
I make crispy rice soup every morning for him.
That's nice.
I'll cook him whatever he wants for breakfast.
I wasn't always so curt.
I was friendly to him.
But I changed because he drinks, causing problems.
I don't smile anymore.
I will talk to him and be kind to him.
It'll be weird if you change so suddenly.
Can you act cute?
1+1 is 2! Like this. Can you do that?
(Doing addition in a cute way)
- 1+1 is 2? / - It's 2.
Yes. 1+1 is 2. Sure.
I'm sorry. I've never done it before.
4+4 is 8.
(Stop teasing me!)
(Math class is over)
She says she'll be friendly to you.
That'd be great.
Please show us.
(So awkward)
"Honey, don't drink."
He's done the dishes.
You did the dishes?
How lovely.
(Oh my)
Look at Jeongwu smile.
Give him a kiss on his cheek.
He cleaned the house, too.
Then I'd do it.
(Chu)
You should've done that for your son.
What do you think about that?
I don't really like it.
(He's embarrassed by it)
Do you prefer that they fight?
Or do you prefer to see this?
I would prefer this.
Sure.
He doesn't expect you to kiss often.
He just wants you to be amicable.
If they get along well and don't fight
what will you do for them?
You should promise something, too.
I can help out more at home
like doing the dishes and doing laundry.
I guess you already help out a little.
When I listen to them talk
I will give a bigger reaction.
Reactions are important.
What does mom tell you often?
She badmouths dad for
not helping out at home.
And then she cries.
(That's terrible)
How do you feel when she does that?
I don't know what to do.
Why do you complain to him?
I get stressed out a lot.
I know I shouldn't cry and do that to him,
but I just end up doing it anyway.
He's in his teens now, at a sensitive age.
Do you listen to his concerns?
I thought I did.
You listened to your mom talk often.
Does she listen to your concerns?
To be honest, I think she just pretends to.
(Shocked x 10,000)
- That's how it seems. / - Why?
She doesn't make eye contact?
She doesn't answer me much
and she just brushes me off.
She doesn't listen sincerely.
This is what I think.
Kids at Jeongwu's age don't usually
talk about their concerns to their parents.
They begin to have their own world.
It's more so for boys.
I can see that he wasn't ever fully loved.
It's not about who changes first.
All of you must change together.
Let's start now.
Sir, please don't think of this as awkward.
Your mom kissed your dad.
Ah...
But I feel so awkward with him.
You should keep trying.
If you ponder about how to do it,
the years will pass by before you know it.
Dad. Say, "Jeongwu. I'm home!" first.
You should start there.
Dad just got home.
Son. I'm home.
- Hello. / - Yes.
(How nice is that?)
- That's so nice. / - That's enough.
But son!
You should mean it when you do that.
Dad, you're home.
(Frown)
You shouldn't do that.
(Did I do that?)
(Hahahaha)
How does it feel, sir?
It's nice.
Let's continue this conversation.
"Jeongwu, I'm home." Let's start there.
Jeongwu, I'm home.
Hello.
- Continue. / - Ask, "Have you eaten?"
Have you eaten?
Yes. What about you?
(Good job!)
No, I haven't.
I will make something. Want to eat together?
He just said he ate.
You're still not listening to him.
"I will make something. Want to eat together?"
You want him to die from being too full?
You're not going to ask him to drink, right?
What would you like to say to them?
Dad, please quit drinking and
mom, please don't cry in front of me.
And please stop fighting.
Let's always smile. Tell them you love them.
(It's embarrassing...)
Say it.
I love you.
I love you, son.
Let's start with Eunhyuk.
Jeongwu's concern.
I think it is a big concern and he was very brave.
I think it's a concern.
When I look back on my childhood
I still remember my parents arguing.
You can never forget that.
I definitely think it's a concern.
I think it's a concern, too.
I think it's definitely a concern.
It's not about who changes first.
You should all try to change for each other.
They shouldn't wait for others to change.
If you think Jeongwu's situation is a concern,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
Please stop.
Please say a word to Jeongwu, sir.
Rather than being father and son,
I'd like to be friends with you.
Then you should treat him as one.
I will make the first move,
- so please accept me. / - Be nice to him.
If you have concerns, if you can't tell mom,
please talk to me about it.
I promised that I will drink less.
I will keep that promise,
so have faith in me.
I love you, son.
Please say a word, ma'am.
I won't cry in front of you ever again.
If you tell me about your concerns
I will listen to them and be sincere.
I will listen and talk to you sincerely.
I love you, Jeongwu.
He's about to cry.
They love you.
(Boohoo)
(Bursting into tears)
(He has missed his parents' love so much)
He wanted his parents' love so much.
Hold hands, you two and be amicable.
Why don't you try holding hands?
He's so happy right now.
He has missed his parents' love so much.
You two are arm-wrestling now.
He's feeling that love inside him.
(He can't stop crying)
Why do you think you're crying, Jeongwu?
You're crying because you're happy, right?
Say something, Jeongwu.
I don't know. I can't help but cry.
- How do you feel? / - It's resolved now.
He should've been this happy in the past.
You feel good?
I'm just sad.
You won't be sad anymore.
(We will give you nothing but happiness from now on)
"Never A Peaceful Day."
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