I've been married to my husband for 15 years and we have sex almost every day. Here's how we keep it up
three months ago
I was driving to work and listening to an episode of one extraordinary
marriage podcast
the hosts were talking about a
60-day sex challenge they'd um nine years earlier where they committed to having sex every day for 60 days and how it had
Transformed their marriage for the better as I listened
I thought about what it would be like to do something similar with my husband John at the time
We were having sex about once a week not nearly as much as either of us thought was healthy for our marriage
But it wasn't because we weren't interested in having more sex
We have four kids ages nine seven five and one and with both of us working full-time
We are both exhausted at the end of the day
I'm also on an antidepressant that zaps my libido
I mulled all this over unconsidered if I really wanted to commit to a 60-day sex everyday challenge
I thought if I bring this up to John I can't back out
Ultimately, I decided the challenge could only help our marriage
So when I got to work, I texted John and floated the idea by him
He was intrigued and suggested that we start that night. We decided to keep the rules of the challenge simple
We would have sex every day for 60 days
Except if one of us was sick if we were traveling or if I had my period and yes
It felt odd at first to be so practical about sex that first night as he finished up the kids bedtime
Routines I got into bed and just took my clothes off
Usually we'd work up to this a bit. We'd go out to dinner
I'd slip into something pretty but even though we were skipping those parts it was still fun and
Frankly pretty freeing there was no will we won't we?
Tension and no pressure to dress for the occasion or plan anything elaborate
Five women reveal what happened when they had sex with their husbands every day for a month
An interesting thing happened just a few days into the challenge and it didn't have to do with our connection
John became much more relaxed and playful with our kids when he put them to bed when I mentioned this to him
He told me that he didn't mind how long bedtime took anymore because he knew that no matter what we were going to have sex
Afterward as our 60 day challenge as we like to call it continued
I noticed that John also was much more relaxed about other things. That would normally get him wound up
For example money worries became less of an issue
We would still talk about our budget but those conversations
Didn't feel as charged as usual sex releases happy hormones like dopamine and oxytocin
So maybe those were helping to keep the peace no matter what the reason though
it became very clear that all the sex was making him more relaxed and helping us get along a better talk about a win-win as
For me sex every night quickly became a way to unwind and reconnect with my husband in fact after a while
I found that my sex drive was getting stronger
I guess feeling desired every night helped me get in the mood
While daily sex may not seem as romantic or mind-blowing as the spontaneous kind
I found that it actually made those nights when we spiced things up to be even more romantic
Because there was no underlying question of is he going to all this trouble just because he really needs sex
The bottom line was that we were definitely going to have sex
So taking more time with it and adding the massage or music just because we wanted to make each other feel amazing was really special
This massage oil from the prevention shop is perfect for an intimate evening
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