Do you have trouble staying motivated and taking the actions you know you have
to take in order to reach your goals?? I have. I've been there and it's not a good
situation it's tough you know what you have to do but you just don't follow
through you just don't have that spark to move you forward the good news is
this video is going to give you the only thing you need to know to take action so
stick around
there is so much talk these days about hustle staying motivated toughening up
and taking action and I'm no stranger to that if you've watched any of my videos
that is the underlying message of a lot of them even just two weeks ago I did a
video titled what separates the men from the boys and it spoke specifically about
taking action check it out highly recommend watching it I'll leave
a link to it in the description of this video and in that video I shared a few
things I want to cover today specifically I shared a story about
Jerry Seinfeld the famous comedian when he was starting out as a comedian in his
earliest days when it wasn't going that well for him he wasn't taking it very
seriously he wasn't really getting traction wasn't that committed to it
wasn't taking the action he knew he should be taking and he was eating at a
restaurant in New York City when he noticed across the street some
construction workers finishing their break and going back to work and he had
this moment where he said to himself those construction workers are not
wanting to go back to work but they're grabbing their stuff and going back
anyways and in that moment he said to himself I need to be able to have that
same type of drive and commitment with my comedy even when I don't feel like it
even when I'm tired I'd rather do other things I'm not feeling that motivated I
just pick myself up and sit down and focus on my comedy focus on crafting new
jokes or new material so sharing that story which was inspirational to me and
I was hoping for you if you saw it was inspirational for you as well I realize
it's not enough I realized when push comes to shove in those hard moments
it's not enough to just say to yourself I know I need to take action right now I
know I need to just grit my teeth and push through this you can't sustain
continuous effort off that alone sometimes that's required sometimes you
need to dig deep and just grind through I'm a big I'm a big proponent of that
you've seen my other videos but I want to rectify things here today because I
feel like I shortchanged you to a degree and I want to clear things once and for
all and you the true trigger of all action and
if you can harness this and put this to use to your advantage there's not going
to be many situations where you're going to let a lack of motivation or a lack of
feeling like it overtake your desire to take action and get what you want to get
I can tell you all day to toughen up and act when you don't feel like it but
without addressing the true trigger it can fall flat it can be ineffective so
I'm going to give you this technique in just a few moments I'm gonna give you
the only thing you need to know about taking action but first I'd like to give
you another quick hypothetical story to just solidify the point I'm trying to
make here just imagine for a moment someone maybe someone in your own life
that you know maybe you yourself have disregarded your health for your entire
life up until this point you haven't eaten healthy you have an
exercise you've smoked your perhaps overweight or someone you know and they
get to a point where cardiovascular disease is a very real thing
perhaps they get hit with a heart attack and a stroke and they go and visit the
doctor and the doctor says to them listen you got to make some changes in
your life or you're not gonna have much life left and that person makes a
radical change they start exercising they start taking their health seriously
I mean perhaps you've heard this story on some level in some degree I know
there's people in my life I've watched this happen to but what actually
happened there why was it that their entire life they put off health they put
off their well-being but they got to that point in their life where
everything flipped everything turned around in an instant and they were a new
person they took their health very seriously
they had a complete 180 what was it what happened one word PAIN now what do I
mean by that if you're familiar with neuro-linguistic
programming or Freudian psychoanalysis or something called the pain-pleasure
principle and what it states is that all of our behavior is dictated by the
desire for pleasure or the avoidance of pain think about this in your own life
every behavior you have every action you take if you drill it down on the most on
the deepest fundamental level it's the avoidance it's motivated by the
avoidance of pain or the acquisition or seeking of pleasure however that is not
all the avoidance of pain is a much stronger motivator than the desire for
pleasure so there's this whole movements with this secret law of attraction
visualization visualize your success and I'm not completely averse to that I'm
not completely against those things they have a place in our lives they play a
role however there's not enough talk about thinking negatively thinking of
worst case scenario if you're not taking action if you have trouble staying
motivated consistently in taking consistent actions that you know you
need to take visualizing what you want is not the answer positive thinking is
not the answer what you need to start doing is start focusing on the pain of
not taking action and magnifying that pain of not taking action imagining it
in detail going deep into that a deep visualization exercise not for what you
want not for what you're after but what you want to avoid so like the story of
the person who radically transforms our health within an instant they had a
realization that I don't want to die soon I want to live more life so now I'm
going to fix these things it's unfortunate that it took the person that
long to do that but that is what happened with in that instance
anyone who radically makes a radical transformation in their life there's
some trigger maybe it's a near-death experience
maybe they realize they almost died or they face death and their life
transforms they're a new person after that they have faced death and they
realize how precious life is and they want to make the most of it and it's
that pain that's driving them that avoidance of that pain the strongest
motivator is pain so how do you dive into this and make this work in your
life suppose you've set a goal you're not
taking action towards it you've been visualizing the goal you're like I want
this thing it's just not enough to motivate you start making start by
writing down a list of all the negatives of not achieving that thing if you do
not achieve that thing what's gonna happen that you want to avoid you're
gonna be a failure you're gonna be embarrassed you're not gonna be
successful you're gonna be broke you're not going to be healthy you're gonna be
a slob and like low energy overweight make a list of all the things and focus
on each one of those things going too deep detail of visualizing what that
looks like if I don't stay consistent with the gym I'm gonna be low-energy and
I'm gonna be overweight I'm not gonna feel good about myself I'm gonna have
low confidence low self-esteem and feel that fully embody that and keep that as
a constant reminder there's other ways you can magnify the pain and make it
stronger getting an accountability partner someone you are accountable
towards like I shared two weeks ago in the video as well this friend of mine
who's going to the gym it needed some help and needed some some motivation so
him and I became accountability partners he called that he called that one
morning and said I or he texted me that one morning and said I'm not gonna make
it today I said you better get down there man you better get your ass down
to that gym and that sunk in for him and he got up out of bed and got down to the
gym at 6:30 in the morning that pain of letting me down that pain of me thinking
of him as weak willed and soft was enough to trigger it if I wasn't
there if it was just him and himself oh no one's gonna know I can just let this
slide his accountability to to me was the pain point you can take this a step
further you can get monetary value involved with this you can make set
goals and have an accountability partner I've never done this myself I know
others that have where if you slip up or fail you owe that person money or you
have to donate that money a few hundred dollars a thousand dollars whatever
whatever makes it painful enough that fear of loss of that fear of having to
pay a thousand bucks because you failed on a goal or didn't meet your commitment
is a powerful motivator avoiding that pain is the motivation so play with this
use this principle to your advantage magnify the pain make it stronger add
these components accountability partners money get money involved with it it
create that pain as much as possible as much as you need for me coming to work
here I love coming into work I love coming into this office you don't feel
like it every day that's life but I don't want to let my team down I don't
want to let my people down here I want to set the example that's painful that
that is a painful enough for me to trigger that I mean when I was rock
bottom when I was 100k in debt $100,000 in debt depressed low self-esteem no
confidence that was the darkest time of my life and wallowing not and
experiencing that eventually as painful as it was became so painful that you
know I just resorted to desperate measures like desperation desperation is
often you know there's negative connotation associated with it but being
desperate being in a desperate situation in your life that can evoke tremendous
effort we all know what we have to do guys there's no mystery there it's about
whether we could follow through it's about whether we can execute there's
always a next step for you even if you're at the darkest place in your life
and feel like there's nowhere to turn
there's always a next action you can take to help you get out of that to help
you move towards the life that you want
and we often create too much pain for taking action oh that's not going to
work out oh what's the use oh I have to step out of my comfort zone
to do that create more pain for not taking action and taking action becomes
the default becomes the default you don't throw out visualization and
positive thinking and moving towards what you want to move towards but don't
make that the only thing visualize success create a clear picture of what
it looks like and then magnify the pain of not moving towards that that is the
formula and if you still don't believe me if you believe that you are the most
unmotivated most unreliable person that cannot follow through that cannot get
motivated I guarantee I could get you motivated real fast if I took your head
and I held it underwater what would happen you get motivated real quick and
why is that the pain of drowning the pain of death the uncomfort of that
thought that feeling you would get motivated real fast now imagine you have
that same type of intensity in your own life facing your own small-time BS about
not taking action. about not being motivated. make inaction hurt. magnify
the feeling of discomfort the idea of not taking action with the same
intensity of drowning with your life dependent on it and you've just given
yourself the cure for inaction and lack of motivation. stay strong guys
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