hey it's sean mccabe welcome back to the overlap series I'm going through my book
overlap chapter by chapter we're a few in here this is the book OverlapBook.com
you can find the e-book you can find the audio book all the other
formats but I thought why not also have a video book and that's not exactly
where I'm going through reading the book on video although I am referring to the
book so I'm kind of thinking if I were to sit down with you in person at a
coffee shop and just talk about the things I talked about in my book how
would I share it with you what would we talk about and that's essentially this
series here so we're on part four chapter number four which today is set a
big goal now this whole series obviously these are a little bit longer videos
than your typical five seven minute YouTube videos so I understand that it's
not always convenient to watch long form on video which is why we also make this
series available as a podcast seanwes tv is available to listen on the go
whether you're at the gym running cleaning the house you know whatever you
can listen to these as well so you don't have to be on YouTube necessarily that's
seanwes.tv/podcast you can find a link in the description as well
so let's get into it let's pick up where we left off last week so last week we
talked about auditing your passions so first finding your passion we talked
about pursuit how you can only pursue one thing at a time and you have to
focus you need to pick one thing and go and it's okay if it's not the perfect
thing because it's probably not going to be the thing you do for the rest of your
life anyway so really have a little bit of pressure and pick something and go
with it now you've got all these ideas of things that you might be passionate
about but that's very different from something that you're passionate about
the act of doing so that's what we talked about with auditing finding
something that you don't just think you like doing but you have confirmed this
is something I actually enjoy doing you've spent a couple weeks to three
weeks you set aside the time to actually do this thing and see if you like it we
talked about how passion is found on the other side of resistance no matter what
you do even if you think you like doing it you're going to encounter
distance it's when you see it you see it through that resistance that you know
this is something that I'm passionate about so that's where we left off
now hopefully you have your thing at least that's where we're at in this
process so today we're talking about setting a big goal now why a big goal
because most people don't set goals that are big enough in fact one of the most
common regrets of successful people is setting goals too low and then
accomplishing them it's it's just you know it's disappointing it's like I
could have I could have strived for more so we're talking about sending a big
goal today and I want to kind of you know wipe the slate clean and help you
envision a space you know create a space for yourself to project forward a vision
just imagine you have whatever money you want you can just name a figure and that
amount of money is in your bank just remove all of the limitations so we're
gonna fast forward 5 10 15 20 years into the future I want you to project a
vision of the life that you want spare no expense what does this life look like
what are you doing on a day to day basis where do you live all of these things I
want you to come up with a clear vision and I want you to really think about
this I'm gonna have you do an exercise here before we continue and this
exercise what you do what you write down from this exercise is something we're
going to use next week so it's not optional you need to do this it's very
important we're gonna build off of this this is this is for very good reason so
I'm gonna give you some prompts here some questions to think about if you can
have anything you want if your life can look like whatever you want then what is
your perfect life what is the life you want to have what
is your health like where are you living what car do you own if that matters to
you right what does your ideal day look like what is your ideal day look like
how much money are you making what are your goals at that point do you still
have goals you know what are your ambitions going
when you have the life you want to have so here's the exercise I want you to
create a new note this can be on your computer can be on your phone it could
be a physical piece of paper it doesn't matter but I want you to create a new
note and write today's date at the top whenever you're watching this not when
the video comes out not when you're listening to this but well yeah whenever
you're listening to this even if it's far in the future whatever today's date
is write that at the top now here's the kicker I want you to list all the goals
that you have now at this point you might be resistant I have a lot of
people they don't do this exercise and I keep coming back to it like hey we meet
we're gonna use this next week we're gonna use what you wrote and we're gonna
work from it so you need to write it out but they they're like oh you know you
said write all the goals that you have and that would be just be way too many
it's actually not I want you to write all of the goals that you have and be
specific and here's the thing it's gonna be a lot fewer than you think it's
really easy to convince yourself that you have so many goals and ambitions
because it's just really nebulous in your head but you haven't ever really
stopped to sit down and think and write and articulate them and when you do this
you'll realize you actually have far fewer goals than you thought you haven't
ever written them down so I want you to write them down I want you to be
specific we're gonna do something with this next week so I would encourage you
to do this now hit pause go write out a list just write down goals until you
can't think of any more goals that you have keep writing
when you do that feel free to come back so III know you probably won't you
probably won't do this because most people don't do it but again at least
I'm telling you we are gonna use this next week so I really hope you do this
exercise write out a list of all the goals that you have and be specific so
again the list is going to be shorter than you think I want you to consider
everything you would accomplish if you had no limitations so don't just write
this down like what could you know what can I do within my current situation I
mean no limitations if you didn't have limitations like bill
to pay or you know anything like that if you didn't live where you you currently
live if you feel like that's restricting you no limitations what would you
accomplish what matters to you what are you striving towards what is
your aim what is your purpose what is your passion write down a list of those
goals so we're gonna come back to that next week I really want you to do that
before we go on if you're going to dream dream big so when I was a kid I always
wanted to have a Lamborghini I just thought that was the coolest car I had
little toy Lamborghini cars and I was like I want to own a Lamborghini and
then when I grew up a little bit you know got to be a teenager high school I
lowered that goal I lowered it within the constraints of my current reality
well I can't can't get a Lamborghini so what else could I do I said okay I'll
get a Mustang but I was very specific about the car that I wanted I said it
needed to have fewer than 80 85,000 miles it needed to be under $5,000 I
wanted it to be red I wanted it to be a stick shift manual transmission I had
all this criteria and I spent a really long time working over the summer saving
up money actually for a few summers and you know I passed up a lot of Mustangs
you know I was looking at the classifieds looking online at car
listings and I'm just looking for the specific car that I wanted
III wasn't gonna settle specific car that I wanted many many months pass by
but finally I found it it had 81 thousand miles it was listed
four or five thousand dollars it was a red Mustang and it was a standard
transmission and I ended up getting it for around $3,500 because I had it
inspected and they said you know the clutch is about to go out and the owner
just volunteered to lower the price the amount that the clutch would cost which
was just awesome and so what it showed me is you know
when I put my mind to it and I say this is what I'm going to accomplish I was
able to do it but what I realized a little bit later on was you know what
I lowered my original goal and I accomplished it and it was you know felt
okay it was like yeah I accomplished my goal but it was like now what you know I
I didn't set my sights very high you know a few thousand dollars for a
Mustang I came back to that dream of you know as a kid I wanted to own a
Lamborghini maybe you've got a silly dream something you think that's just
you know that's just that's just a childhood dream I thought I would own my
own Island or something you know that you now think is silly but I want you to
revisit that I want you to go back to that maybe it's not exactly that maybe
maybe it's not verbatim what you wanted when you were a little kid but there's
something there there's there's a seed of something there and I want you to go
back to that I want you to to revisit that I wrote myself a letter when I was
21 I wrote myself a letter I was making not much more than $1,000 a month just
barely getting by very little money and so you know I I wanted I had just gotten
married by the way and you know I said it's kind of a struggle right now I'm
trying to get these businesses going it's not super easy fortunately my wife
was on board she said you know I'm gonna struggle with you we're gonna do this
together but you know not making a lot of money right eating ramen noodles
we had a couch that we borrowed from someone and then they moved and they
needed it and so we were sitting on the floor and our mattress was on the ground
you know we're just eating cheap barely getting by but like we we were happy
you know we had each other and it it wasn't a big deal right but um I I
wasn't satisfied so I was happy but I wasn't satisfied I wanted to not just
get by and so I wrote myself a letter and this letter said I want a job that
pays $3,000 plus a month playing music either either playing music or doing
computer work that I love and at the end of this letter I said I have my new job
I've got it and I actually just sent this to myself in an email I still have
the email saved I had a little label called star
and I just kind of like start it and like put it aside and I said you know
I've got my new job I've got it I didn't know what that would be I didn't know
what kind of job this would be like but it felt like I was really reaching for
the stars like this was as big as I could think you know even the little
plus symbol at the end of the three thousand dollars a month there's like
three thousand dollars plus you know like really stretching myself and you
know looking back on that it's like okay well that's you know I I now make way
more than that but at the time that felt really really
big I was stretching myself as far as I could go and how long do you think it
was before I reached that goal you think it was a few months six months twelve
months well two years later it hit me I was looking at my bank and and because I
was working for myself I didn't immediately know how much I was making
per month like someone with a normal job and a normal paycheck would know because
it's just on their paycheck I kind of had to add up revenue from different
sources and when I did that I realized I had passed three thousand dollars in the
last month and that was a really big moment for me like when I when I first
wrote that goal I was just shooting for the stars like if there's within any
realm of possibility maybe I could possibly someday achieve this it was
just the biggest thing for me but it for me when I set the goal when I wrote the
letter to myself it didn't matter the amount of time it took to get there it
was it was just I'm gonna get there right no matter what I'm gonna do what
it takes I'm gonna work to get there and the important thing was that I'd already
accomplished the goal in my mind but before I got there two years before I
already accomplished the goal in my mind it was just a matter of reality aligning
with my mindset like this is already happening this is already something I
have accomplished now we're just waiting for the rest of the world the rest
of reality to align with that vision and I'm just gonna work until I get there
that was the mindset that I had and where you're at now is a result of the
goals you set prior to this day and the steps you took to achieve them so if
you're not where you want to be look back a few years and ask yourself what
you were doing what were you doing a few years ago what were the steps you were
taking what was your mindset what were the goals that you have and if you're
not where you want to be now I guarantee you when you look back a few years you
weren't taking the steps towards where you want to be you you didn't have that
vision you weren't showing up every day and taking the action so where you'll be
at five years from now is going to be as a result of the goals you set today and
the steps you take to achieve those goals so that's why I want you to set a
big goal I don't want you to set a small goal and then accomplished it you know
like like I did with the Mustang right I lowered my goal I lowered the goal
within the constraints of my current reality that is not the realm within
which you should dream your current reality is not where you should dream
that's that's already within your grasp it's not stretching you it's not causing
you to push beyond where you already are so that's that's why I say dream big
stead a really big goal and we're gonna do something next week with the list of
goals that you wrote out today but we're gonna save a little bit of that I set
what felt like a really big revenue goal for me at the time and then a couple
years later you know just just smashed that right so I've since adjusted things
I've since since set bigger goals but I wanted to share this this quote from
Bill Gates he's quoted as saying most people overestimate what they can do in
one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years so you think you can get
a lot more done than you can in a year and you really jam-pack it
but something happens after one year like most of us can't think beyond a
year like okay yeah there's next year and then everything else after that like
it's we we don't really visualize it right but especially if you're heading
in the right direction you're taking consistent steps those compound you know
if you get 1% better every day I am putting myself on the spot now I don't
remember the math someone can leave a comment and tell me at the end of the
year it's some 4 figure percentage improvement that you have it's not just
like 1% plus 1% it compounds right so if you're taking small steps in the right
direction those steps compound which is why you you really cannot imagine what
you can accomplish in 10 years you will underestimate what you can accomplish in
10 years so that's why your goal should be something that feels unreasonable
right now it should feel unreasonable it should make you uncomfortable right now
where you are first for some of you maybe the the two
years that it took me to reach what I thought was a big goal at the time you
might think well two years is a really long time and that just it just depends
on your perspective it's really not a long time in the grand scheme of things
certainly it not in the picture of human history but neither in in the picture of
your life your life is really long two years this is a small price to pay
showing up every day for two years it's a small price to pay for getting where
you want to go it's it's even six years even ten years is not a long time if you
have the right perspective everything everything about your current situation
can be totally different in six years literally everything I mean it's it's
amazing how different your life can be in a matter of a few years if you set a
goal for yourself you give yourself a purpose and an aim and a drive and an
ambition and a passion and you take a step towards that every single day your
life can look completely different so if you're not happy with your current
situation you can change that you can be a different person you can live in a
different place you can accomplish more it's just a matter of setting a big goal
you've got to get around people where that type of thing is not weird cuz yeah
you are gonna have people around you who ridicule you for setting a big goal
that's ridiculous that's unrealistic okay well maybe it is unrealistic but do
you want realistic results would you rather have realistic results or
unrealistic results I mean if you want to see different results from other
people then you're going to need to think differently than them
you can't think the same way as them at if you want to see different results
that's what I'm trying to say so one of the reasons we underestimate
what we can accomplish is because we think in limited units so we we think in
in terms of linear growth like okay if I do one pushup every day at the end of
the year I'll do 365 push-ups you know we just we add things linearly and the
units within which we think are determined by our current reality so
when we when we think and plan and rhenium and project based on the units
of our current reality we're only able to come up with linear results and your
current reality whatever units you think in are they're making you dream small
they're making you think small right like what's the most money you've ever
made on a single job what's the most money you've ever held in your hand you
know what's what's the what's the biggest product order you've ever had
you know what's the most salary you've ever made what's the most you've been
paid on a monthly basis you know those things are units maybe for you you think
in units of $100 like if something $600 you're like wow that's six of one of the
unit's I think in that's a lot but if you think in thousand-dollar units it's
like 600 that's less than one you know that's less than 1,000 because whatever
unit you think in and we think in different units but generally you're
gonna gravitate towards a particular unit is it that is something that you
have become accustomed to something you've you've become familiar with right
like for me when I had as many I had like eight and eight full-time employees
at one time and our payroll was tens of thousands of dollars a month
it was huge and so the unit I thought in at that time was ten thousand dollars
like all right we need another 10 grand like that that was just how I thought
how can we get another 10 grand let's get another 10 grand admittedly I'm not
to the point where I think in a hundred thousand dollar units right but maybe
you're not to the point where you thinking $10,000 maybe you're at $1,000
maybe you're at $100 but if you think of the unit as a sugar cube like a single
sugar cube that's a unit to you well some people stack together four of
those sugar cubes and they make an even bigger one and that's what they think of
and then other people stack a bunch of those together into you know a 10 by 10
like tray of sugar cubes and other people have 10 trays stacked on each
other and make a mega sugar cube and none of people think of a hundred of
those stacked on a pallet and other people think of numbers of pallets on
barges and other people think in number of barges right it's just or then ports
for the barges it's just its units right eventually when you systematize
something when you when you acclimate to something when you make something that
was previously big feel like your new normal you normalize what's big to you
then you're able to think of it as a unit and when you can think in bigger
units that's when you start to get that that cascading kind of exponential
effect or growth so when you set bigger goals that are outside your comfort zone
outside the constraints of your current reality it's going to feel uncomfortable
but it's going to push you it's gonna push you outside your comfort zone
outside of your boundaries so that these bigger units become normalized to you so
you are able to think in bigger units and therefore you're able to set bigger
and bigger goals what feels like an insane goal a huge massive unrealistic
goal to you maybe something that Elon Musk would scoff at right like he's
talking about being an interplanetary species like he is thinking on a
different level he is thinking in bigger units so point of this is say that you
have so much more inside of you than you realize your potential is far beyond
what you've tapped into you haven't even begun to reach your potential what
you're capable of it's because you haven't pushed yourself
enough you haven't strived towards something bigger you've been comfortable
you've been complacent within the constraints of your current reality
you've become familiar with the unis that you think in every time you know if
you're not making as much as you want to make per month you're thinking in terms
of those units if it's $3,000 a month and you're just trying to get that maybe
you're thinking in $1,000 units or $100 units like ah I'm making 2500 I really
need 3,000 to get by I want to get to 4,000 you know that's the constraints of
your current reality whereas for someone else that's just a rounding error for
someone who's like I got to pay eight employees salaries we need another 10
grand it's like you know 1,500 bucks 1,200 bucks that's nothing right it's
it's inconsequential so what is it that's going to get you to that next
level it's for now it's starting with setting a big goal if it feels
comfortable to you the goal isn't big enough set a goal that makes you feel
uncomfortable and stress yourself so when it feels just outside your reach
like I don't think I could achieve that I don't think I could accomplish that
that means you're on the right track so some key takeaways when you dream big
other people will call you impractical but you can't think like everyone else
if you want to experience different results from them so you can't think
like them what is hanging around with them and talking with them all of the
time going to do it's gonna keep you in that reality it's gonna keep you
constrained you're gonna have to change that you're
gonna have to change your environment you're gonna have to change your friends
you're gonna have to change the company you keep the content you consume the
messages you listen to the books you read the videos you watch the podcasts
you listen to all of that stuff the communities you're a part of the group's
you're a part of the the meetings you go to the friends you hang out that has to
change it's got to change people will try to talk you down from
your big goal that's going to happen expect it to happen now decide not to
care about what they think in fact that's the title
of the next chapter we're gonna get to that next week finally don't
underestimate what you can accomplish in ten years you tend to overestimate what
you can accomplish in one year but forget that you underestimate what you
can accomplish in ten years I don't want you to underestimate that so set a goal
that makes you feel uncomfortable set a big goal all right so that's gonna do it
thank you for tuning in to this week's overlap lecture we'll see you next week
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