hello and welcome to this week's episode
of think kink. i'm veronica yanhs founder of
desires laid bare we keep easy and fun
kink classes empowered action takers
just like you
the question I get asked quite a bit is
how did you know you were kinky i love
this question because it gives people an
opportunity to shift their mindset from
who I kind of weird for liking what i
like and i don't think this is supposed
to be what it's like to just accepting
it for what it is
this episode is no more than just me
contributing my story to the
conversation to show that discovering
that you're kinky and finding out as an
adult or just thinking back to all the
memories no more than just part of your
life journey and it does not
anyway informed whether or not you are
crazy or have problems or have mommy and
daddy issues or whatever it is because
trust me we all have problems
so a quick aside the reason why I talk
about people discovering pink and a
young age or having memories as adults
going back to when you were a child
liking to inflict pain or what not is
because people often wonder is there was
something wrong with them
so for instance i know that i have a
friend who enjoys inflicting pain on his
partner and he has told me before that
when he was younger he was often freaked
out that maybe he was destined to become
a child abuser or a partner beater a
wife beater and so he didn't want to
have kids and didn't want to have a
partner because he was afraid he was
going to inflict this kind of
non-consensual pain on them and
fast-forward to today I think he's one
of the most loving and parental figures
out there and it's just a joy to watch
him interact with his wife and kids so
let's dive into a little bit of my story
condensed into as fast as I can make it
for this episode I didn't discover that
i was into kinky stuff until
I watched a movie in 2003 and really is
called secretary starring james spader
and it was pretty much life changing
because it was such an AHA like mind
blown moment that watching it
this will be watching him and Maggie
Gyllenhaal interact in a dominant and
submissive way and having her not know
that she was submissive really opened my
eyes to what submission was or what
being kinky was or what
BDSM what I mean when I was 13
this is when i watched it I was like I
didn't know any better but I just knew
that it excited me and I couldn't really
explain it
fast forward into a few years later
being the big harry potter fan that I am
I read a lot of fanfiction in high
school and throughout college in
addition to reading books published by
authors yaa what-have-you i read a lot
of fan fiction and i discovered a fanfic
that was all about dominance and
Submission between the two characters
specifically making hermione for the win
I'm still peeing taken Hermione and it
was so fascinating to me because I knew
that reading the story waiting every
week for a new chapter to be released I
just couldn't get enough of it I
couldn't understand why i wanted to but
I just knew that I really loved seeing
myself and Hermione position and she was
the sub and Nate was the dominant and
just the way the story was written by
really well read author it's captivated
me so much and so because of the
secretary and Harry Potter's fantastic i
did a lot of research and that's when I
realized that something within the BDSM
community specifically dominance and
Submission really spoke to me and it
wasn't until a couple years ago that I
was just curious to see is my discovery
of kink what further investment 2003 so
there is the reason why
Aladdin was one of my favorite movies
growing up as a kid in the Disney Rome
and i realized that when i was asking
for my parents for halloween costumes or
when I was watching movies
my favorite part in a lot and was when
Jasmine was captured by Jafar and so she
turned from the blue Jasmine into the
red jasmine and she had shackles on her
and she was confined in that sand timer
and I remember rewinding a capper
whining those scenes over and over and
over again because they just really
spoke to me or another example was when
I was a kid my cousins and family
members are huge Star Wars fan and my
favorite scene in the whole entire
franchise at that time was when Princess
Leia with captured by java the hut and
she became slave leia and her outfit
also in Chains and so I remember also
rewinding that scene over and over and
over again and told the tape snap this
is just an example of me piecing
together my kink history and it started
when I was a toddler
of course I question whether or not
there were things wrong with me or with
my childhood insufficient in some way
but you know what at the end of the day
i love why airing out i love the
placemat and it is what it is and
there's nothing wrong with knowing that
disney has shake the way that my kink
life had turned out thanks to disney so
that's my story in that she'll and he
said I'm starting this conversation
because i believe and helping the people
that I tell the story to to change from
fear that their weird or that their
childhood was lacking or that they had
mommy and daddy issues or whatever it
may be or that they're afraid that
because they might be interested in kink
or BDSM that they are sick in the head
somehow or that something was
insufficient in their life and you know
what they're not and you're not so
that's why i tell my story because it
changes you from
code of reaction and fear into
self-acceptance love introspection and
enlightenment and that's what can cause
all about is becoming a better person in
terms of growth and love in a society
where there's so much hate and judgment
that's being filled left and right
my hope for you today is that through my
story you found some aha moments in your
life or maybe you found some self-love
piece self-acceptance in your journey as
a human being and how maybe King has
influenced that there's nothing wrong
with you there's no need to be ashamed
of what happened it is what it is and I
think that you're an amazing person
regardless of your kinky or not but to
know that just because you are kinky
doesn't make you any more weird or
different then anyone else so that's all
i have for you this week stay kinky if
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