The universe has nothing to work with. We must express to the universe. You gotta
throw the universe a bone and a boner.
This is what I crave. This is what I desire. I want a juicy vulva. I want to
feel turned on. I want to feel sexy. I want someone to notice me for my
sexiness. I want to be desired. I want to have intimate connection. I want hot
makeouts. I want passionate lovemaking. I want to have orgasms from penetration. I
want to be able to lie there and have someone go down on me and come and come
and come and come. I want to have hours worth of sex. I want to have a couple of
lovers. I'm just throwing out a few
because that's how specific we get to be. Hi, I'm Susan Bratton, your trusted hot
sex advisor here with my friend Amara Charles, a spiritual sexuality expert, and
you're watching a series called the Shakti Queen series. That we're doing
together. Amara in this particular episode is going to give you an exercise,
a technique for releasing the blocks that are holding you back from
experiencing your full sexual potential. Essentially if you want to feel more of
your sex drive, if you want to feel more desire and you don't, how can you do that?
Because it's a very very common issue with women. They want to want sex. They
want to want their partner, but for some reason there's something that's holding
them down, that shut them down, that's preventing them from having that full
turned on sexy Shakti goddess expression. So Amara why don't you give us a
little bit of an idea about how a woman who feels like there's more sexual
energy available out there for her but something is blocking her from having it
herself. She sees other women having it but she's not getting it herself in her
situation. What does she do? Well I have experienced that this can
definitely be turned around and I've met quite a lot
of women who don't exactly advertise. They don't go around
expressing that they have a low sex drive. So it's a secret shame.
A lot of women feel that way. Like I'm not enough.
That really is counterproductive to changing.
You're not going to be able to change it if you're not even owning it
or realizing that is something that you really want to
shift in your life, and rather than treating it like a problem like "Oh my
gosh, I have low libido," they have to realize the first place to
start is to say "I must discover what it is that I do want. What is it
that I do desire." So we must become very clear and very passionate about what we
want what, we desire, what we want to have in our life. For example,
I just want to you know in a low-key way I want
more sex drive or maybe I want a higher libido. I wish I
had a higher libido! That's not going to do anything. So the first thing
is that we really gotta get in touch with how bad we want this. We want
that back. We want that even higher than it was when we were 20 and it is
possible. Oh most definitely!
So we really gotta get to that place where we're excited about this, and I know this
is a challenge because that's part of that issue. Having a lower sex drive
mean your energy overall tends to be lower. So you really got to pull that
out of you. What I know is that we cannot change something that's negative. In
other words, we can't say to ourselves I want to change my low libido. The
universe has nothing to work with. We must express to the universe.
You gotta throw the universe a bone or a boner! This is what I want. This is what
I crave. This is what I desire. I want a juicy vulva. I want to feel turned on. I
want to feel sexy. I want someone to notice me for my sexiness. I want to be
desired. I want to have intimate connection. I want hot make-outs. I want
passionate lovemaking. I want to have orgasms from penetration. I want to be
able to lie there and have someone go down on me and come and come and come
and come. I want to have hours worth of sex. I want to have a couple of lovers.
I'm just throwing out a few because that's how specific we get to be and
it doesn't happen if we just say that once. I am sure that you
have had this in your mind for a long long time, and that's the
second piece. When we locate, we get clear about what those
things are that we really want, when we get clear, we bring our
emotion, we bring our heart and we bring our passion. We've got to rehearse this
in our minds over and over again. Change does not happen just
because you want something to change. So you have to have the
determination to keep rehearsing, seeing in your mind what it is that you see
yourself, having that full rich, full orgastic explosion, that loving heart
connection. Literally rehearse it in your mind. See it yourself. Having this feel,
your body feeling this. The more you feel this, the more those hormones and
neural networks spring open and those new passages, those
networks start to connect in the brain. That's how you are laying the foundation
to be able to create this change in yourself. So you
must rehearse this in your mind over and over again. See yourself, feel
yourself, hear yourself, taste yourself. Anything you can do to increase the
feeling of yourself having more sex right now, just wanting it and rehearsing
it in your mind. Guess what? That's not going to do it. That's not how we create
change. How we create change in our lives is first the thing you must have is
clarity. What you want really clearly. You must have the feeling, the passion. You
must rehearse it in your mind. This will accelerate if you rehearse it in your
mind. First it's gonna make it happen and then you need to learn
new things if you want to replace the lower sex drive and all the patterns
that go along with that, which is saying no, turning down opportunities, getting it
retired, being afraid. All of those things are hardwired into
our neural network, and that is just how we react. Somebody asks us. We have an
opportunity. Automatically, no. I don't feel like it. Something's wrong with this.
You feel 'No, I don't want it.' And that just exasperates and keeps the sex
drive really low. So if you really want to change this, you've got to put
yourself in new situations. You have to learn something new. You have to create
new neural pathways so that as you're learning, you are creating new
connections in your mind, in your body and in your spirit. And so things like
going and looking at Susan's videos for example, and learning
and saying 'Wow that's possible! Oh I never thought of that!'
What's happening in your mind when that happens and you see something new and
exciting is you're creating a new connection. You read
books, you see it over and over, you read books and you could go to
workshops, you could come to one of my workshops and you'll experience a different
kind of connection where there is safety,
love, care, respect, beauty and orgastic myths in a safe place, where
it's okay to express yourself. Surround yourself with people that
support this, have conversations, go to movies that are inspiring, fill your mind
and your body with the experience of what it feels like to have a higher sex
drive in your life and if you repeat this enough, you will accelerate
this change. You're not going to have that change by just waiting around until
something happens. Or also you can be helped by augmentation
of hormones and different practices and techniques, but what really amplifies it,
what really makes the change is your spirit because your mind is your heart
and that will help all these other techniques. I think there's two other
things that can really help. One is reading erotica. Yes, reading erotica
works very well if you don't have your own fantasies. So expanding your fantasy
life is a big part of it, and the second is self-pleasuring. Maybe trying out a
bunch of different vibrators, giving yourself a vulva massage with some warm
coconut oil, setting aside some special time when you are going to expand
your own orgasmic capability. Give yourself orgasms, take yourself up to the
edge and back up to the edge and back up to the edge and back. Tease and play with
yourself, turn your body on. Also doing things like getting massages,
going in the hot tub, anything that has some physicality to it as a state
can also increase it. One of the things I don't want you to do is
think that you have to have a hormone replacement therapy, that you're
low on estrogen or you need testosterone. Just have desire. You can have
plenty of desire even if you're in menopause. After menopause, you got very
little as in your body.
Sex hormones are not the thing that gives you the desire. The desire actually
comes from your mind.
You mind generates your arousal and turn-on and it's a beautiful thing because one of
the practices that I love to do is to self-pleasure with this vision.
So say when the things you want to change is to have a very strong
orgasmic feeling, really strong orgastic release, you wanna not just
have a little sneeze. You really want to have a potent powerful release.
See if you can imagine your own body doing this. Try to image that
in your mind, and if you can't see it, maybe hear it. Hear
yourself moaning. Maybe you want to just moan to accentuate and augment this. So you
put yourself in the state while you are self-pleasuring and at the moment where...
I like what you said: You take yourself to the edge and then back and
then to the edge and then back, and then when you finally let it build and build
and build and then you finally let your self release, that's when you see
yourself at that moment, because you're amplifying that thing that you desire. A
higher sex drive with that visualization or that humming sound or that body
feeling and at the moment of your orgasm, you can increase your manifestation. You
can increase your change and I guarantee you that if you do this minimally three
times a week, you will find yourself noticeably, in a very short time, in less
than a month, you will notice the difference in your sex drive. If you
masturbate three times a month. I mean three times a week for a month,
you're gonna be thinking about all kinds of sexy thoughts constantly because you
are going to fire up all those juices again. I love that. So
everything you need is within right now. You don't have to worry.
There's no outside influence that is required for you to increase your libido,
increase your desire and become a sexier more compelling woman who draws lovers
toward her because she's cultivating her sensuality and her Shakti queen. You have
a gift that you'd like to give. So Amara has a gift for you.
Yes I have a gift of the Shakti Wheel of Power which is a video presentation and
it is an instant guide of how you can quickly turn around any blockages.
Anytime you feel stuck or disconnected, you can immediately get back to
your center. Lsten to your heart and take courageous action. Beautiful. Oh I
love that. Take courageous action. The first step to that is to find the Shakti
Wheel of Power. You'll find a couple of gifts in the link below tis
video. Now if you're on your phone, it's a silly little tiny little triangle that
you have to click and it pops open the box that has our links in it. So go ahead
and do that now and take our gifts with our pleasure and know that this is just
one of a five-part techniques series on moving into the Shakti Queen that you
were born to be. I'm Susan Bratton with my friend Amara
Charles and we'll see you on the other side.
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