This is Couples Court with The Cutlers.
This is a case of Harris versus Ayala.
You all have been together for...
a year and a half and have been married for five months. Is that right?
-Yes, your Honor. -All right.
Ms. Harris, why have you brought your wife of five months to court today?
Well, your Honor, I think that my wife is cheating with men.
And I'm here to find out today,
um, the result, if she is or isn't.
If my marriage is worth it to her, sir.
What does that feel like
to think that your wife of five months is cheating on you?
Every day I struggle, I go crazy inside my head.
It makes me sad. It tears me down.
I have constantly rebuilding myself up.
Every day struggle.
All right, so, what do you hope to prove today?
I hope that everything comes out correct,
and that we can find a way that get past our issues and...
save our marriage.
It's my first marriage and it means the world to me and sacred so...
I wanna do anything and everything that I can to save it.
Ms. Ayala, what are you here to prove?
I'm here to prove that I love her
and there's been mistakes in our relationship.
But, I'm willing to do anything to save it.
I love her.
-[DANA] Okay. -I'm so in love with her.
So, this is really deep to you 'cause I see the tears.
I hear the emotion.
Tell her...
what does she mean to you.
You mean the world to me.
And you know, I've made mistakes.
But... wouldn't get past it. Well, always...
every obstacle we've come across, it's been hard for us.
Not just... that.
But, everything and we didn't get over anything.
-[AUDIENCE] Aww... -For real, Dem. For real.
Ms. Harris, what's on the line here today?
Um, your Honor, my marriage is at stake.
Everything um... I honestly, I haven't um...
I haven't...
I feel like people don't take me and my marriage seriously, your Honor.
I feel like, they laugh at me,
I feel like, I'm made a fool of because of the things that have happened,
I fear, your Honor,
that I haven't even been able honestly, to be sexually active with my wife until
because of what the cheating and the things that have been going on.
I haven't been able to put myself in a position to do so 'cause I'm not comfortable.
So, everything, my whole life is at stake right now.
How long has that been going on?
About two months, your Honor.
Wow, how does that make you feel?
It makes me feel worse than I already do inside, you know?
I mean, it causes more stress than... than needed,
and more problems that are unwanted.
Are you punishing her?
No, I'm not. But I just can't bring myself to do things
that are sacred to me without knowing what is being done.
So, Ms. Ayala, do you feel the tension in this relationship?
-Yes, daily. -[KEITH] Do you feel it?
Tell me what that is like.
It's stressful. You know, um...
I feel like...
I've been in situations,
that has resulted in...
damaging our relationship.
Partly due to Demi's behavior towards me.
And so, from your stand of point you're saying that's all in the past though.
Yeah, it's in the past, as of today.
And your wife is here to find out what's currently going on.
-Yes. -And you are here to tell her
that there's nothing currently going on.
-Yeah, that's exactly right. -Okay.
Okay, so... you all had some time before this.
Before this tension.
Tell me about what it was like when you fell in love.
She was totally different from anybody that I've ever met.
It's like, she... I found a lot of qualities in her that um...
I didn't even really know that I liked.
She's a wonderful mom.
Um, she's funny. She's... she's...
you know, dysfunctional.
She's super dysfunctional, and being multi-tasking and I'm not.
I'm very... I get things done at one point, so, um...
She kinda balances me out.
You know, and I didn't really know.
And I found all this qualities in her that made me want to marry her.
I totally am okay with being with her for the rest of my life.
And you know, another thing was that you know,
she was not normally the type of person I would go for.
-She pursued me hard-core. -[DANA] Okay.
She came after me and was very consistent and persistent
which made me... I had to give her a chance just on that alone.
-Right, who does like being chased? -Just consistency...
-Yeah. -Yeah, yeah, so, I decided to you know...
With the pursuance on me, I had to just try.
You know, I had to give her a chance.
So, Ms. Ayala, what was it about her that made you pursue her?
-[DANA] Look at that smile, Cutler. -[KEITH] Mm-hmm.
I mean, she's gigglin' and blushin'. I love it.
I just... I had a crush on her
from afar, for like a year before she even knew.
-Never knew. -[DANA] Oh.
What made you make the first move?
-I wanted her so bad. -[DANA] Wow.
I wanted her so badly
that I was willing to put myself out there and basically I started...
Wait a minute. Did you...
Did you hear when she went...
She's got chills. She's got chills.
When you see something you want, you go for it, right?
-Right. -There you go.
-That's how we got together. -Right.
You see something and you go for it.
Yeah, Mr. Cutler, he kinda chased me a little bit.
What!
I saw you and I had to have you, right?
-I am married. -There you go.
All right. So...
it sounds like you all got off to a great start.
Yes, we did, your Honor.
-[KEITH] What went wrong? -Oh, man!
Basically, we were kinda having a rough time in our relationship and um...
we got into a disagreement and um...
she chose to leave with a neighbor and um...
You know, when I called and asked her what she was doing
'cause I had this feeling that she was being
dis... you know, there was infidelity.
She told me that I was incorrect. So...
Did you ever ask your neighbor about this?
I didn't have to. She was on her way home to me,
and the neighbor and her got into a disagreement and the neighbor...
and the neighbor called me and told me she slept with their nephew not once but twice.
-So before your wife could even get back home, -[HARRIS] Home.
-the neighbor had already called you, -Yes, your Honor.
and told you that she has slept with a neighbor's nephew.
-Yes. Yes. -[DANA] Wow.
How did you do that?
I was in a vulnerable spot.
Vulnerable day, vulnerable month. Vulnerable...
-So, you were hurt, you were angry, -Yes.
This person called you at a point where you...
where you normally wouldn't have said, "yes", but you took a second look.
Yes.
How did you end up with a neighbor's nephew?
There was no prior contact. One thing lead to another.
I kinda felt pressured and vulnerable.
We weren't having sex, we were arguing all the time, you know?
-I didn't have no one to speak to anybody about anything -[DANA] Okay.
so I felt down.
-[DANA] Okay. -You know, I felt...
I saw you shaking your head like, mm-mm. What is that?
Why are you shaking your head?
First, the vulnerable and angry, your Honor, I took took too long in the shower,
so she decided to leave.
Um, and then...
just previously before that,
there was a fellow with a bad rep that I knew, that I told her not to go around and um...
I was so sick, I couldn't have covers on me.
And I needed her to take care of me and when I wake up the next morning, she's gone.
And it's not until the people she's with leave her stranded somewhere
and she bust through my door and falls asleep.
Then I go through her phone and find out that her little "friend" has told her,
"Oh, don't let Demi know that you know,
wha't going on and just sneak out and just go with us. It's okay."
-Ms. Ayala, you seem to disagree with that. -Oh.
I have caused a lot of... unwanted, unneeded...
-[DANA] Okay, so... -pain to our relationship.
But, aren't you giving her a reason for her to be suspicious of you?
I mean, if you're going out with people that aren't...
I'm put in the...
We fight so much, I'm put in these situations.
There's nothing that I don't do for her, you Honor.
I'll give her a bath if I have to.
I'll shave her legs, I'll cook breakfast, lunch and dinner for her.
I take care of her, I've helped take care of her kids, your Honor.
I put everything on line.
My family will not mess with me because of how she's done me, your Honor.
But that's my wife. And I refuse to let anybody stand or get in her way.
You know, of us. And if it means going through things to get to...
you know, the good parts of it, I will do that.
Do you think that these individuals
are not supportive because you're a same sex relationship?
I think these individuals aren't supportive because
she allows them to not be supportive.
She doesn't... she allows them to do whatever.
She says it's okay for whoever whatever to go against our relationship.
She doesn't correct anybody and that's why I feel like a fool,
and I feel like, our relationship isn't taken seriously.
This is very serious to me. I feel like I'm constantly disrespected.
Everybody's laughing at me.
And I demand respect in my relationship with her
because I would never let anybody disrespect her or this relationship.
So, we talked about the incident in the past
with the neighbor's nephew.
Why do you believe that she's cheating now?
She got mad and took off and she was gone for five days.
I had no idea where she was.
-What caused her to take off like you said? -I had...
You know, your Honor, she left me at the dollar store with our groceries,
and told me that I didn't care about her nor love dher.
And um, waited until I got home to leave.
And she didn't have a phone, so, I'm trying to find out where she is. I mean...
I started getting private calls. And I don't answer private calls
Well, I finally answered and...
lo and behold it's my wife, calling me private.
Hold up. I'm seeing the look on your face. You look angry.
Tell me what you're feeling right now.
[AYALA] Every emotion possible.
It doesn't matter what happened and the details
because we'll fight to the end about that.
The problem is... we need help.
But in order for us to help you, we need to kinda know some of the details.
Why did you leave?
Because me and Demi, when we're together...
we need air sometimes.
Okay. And when couples argue,
yeah, sometimes you need some breathing room, some breathing space.
Now most people don't... leave for five days.
-Disappear. -So, yeah.
So, why did you leave for five days?
Well, I left spontaneously. I couldn't help it.
-Oh, okay. Let me ask you. What do you think happened -I... I mean...
Ms. Harris, during those five days?
during those five days,
I found out she was with someone that she had ran off with before
that was so despicable to me.
Because I took care of this guy when he had nothing.
And then he takes off with my wife knowing how I feel
so I feel like, she off with him again.
And I felt the first time it happened that she was liking on bae.
Maybe something sexual had happened.
-You believe that she cheated on you. -[HARRIS] Yes, your Honor. I do.
-Ms., Ayala? -No...
That's not the truth. That's so untrue.
-So, nothing happened between you and this mutual friend. -No.
To top it off, I ran into a friend of mine,
that I haven't seen for a few months. Um...
And he tells me, one of the nights that she had taken off on me,
hear within a last month or so,
she takes off with his relative.
And they're together the whole entire night.
And I think that something sexual happened that night as well.
She says that it didn't, and... but they went to the casino,
my friend says otherwise, you know?
He says that he wasn't in the house but he's pretty sure that
they had sex.
And I'm just like... blown away. This is it. It kills me.
[DANA]We have a statement.
A witness statement to the court about that event.
And I'd like to read it into the record.
"I know for a fact, that Sasha slept with one of my family members.
"My family member told me all the details of him and Sasha.
"He told me where they had sex,
"how many times,
"and he was very explicit.
My family member said they had sex like, five times that night."
Absolutely not.
"I had to let Demi know about all this
because she's my friend."
[WOMAN] Oh, wow!
How does that make you feel? I see the tears in your eyes.
[WEAPING TONE] Not good enough, your Honor.
I feel worthless. Like, what's wrong with me?
I love her, I've never stepped out of her.
I've made my mistakes, being controlling and things but...
I was getting away from every issue too, your Honor.
I was giving every reason to...
to feel that way but I love her with all my heart.
This is my wife.
And I just fell like, if we can be saved, we can be saved.
But, I haven't even been able to be sexually active with her.
I haven't been able to even have a relationship with her
because I feel like, so much lies... I just ...
I need the truth. And...
Honesty, she's not able to give it to me so that's why we're here today.
[KEITH] And that's what this court is about.
Trying to help people find answers, so they can move forward.
The truth.
Miss, Ayala, I see that you're hurtin'. I see you looking.
How does it make you feel that whatever you've been doing,
even if it's been innocent,
is making your wife feel worthless.
Those are the words out of her mouth.
[WEEPING TONE] Kills me inside.
It does, 'cause I do lover her,
and want to fix this.
I just don't know how.
Well, do you understand, how disappearing for days at a time
and being with other people will contribute to her feeling this way?
Of course.
I mean, I'm vulnerable too, you Honor.
I hurt, too. But I don't go sleep with other people to make it better.
All right. You came into this court,
you've testified that you did not have sex
with your neighbor's relative,
nor with your mutual friend.
Your wife is begging.
Pleading for the truth.
I'm going to ask you. And I'm looking right in your eye,
are you telling the truth?
-No. -[AUDIENCE] Oh!
[DANA]All right.
Did you have sex with the mutual friend?
Yes.
It just happened.
Dem...
-Look at me. -I can't look at you.
I just wanna... I just...
If there's anything that can happen just let... between us.
If there's anything that I can fix,
-I wanna fix it. -No.
If not, I just want us to be better. Better people.
Miss, Harris. She has confessed.
[DANA] Where are you?
Can you accept her confession and move forward?
No, your Honor.
I can't and I won't.
I don't want to [INDISTINCT].
[DANA] Miss Ayala, I want to get to the bottom of the other accusation.
Did you have sex with the neighbor's relative?
Yes.
There...there's a difference.
-There's not... -Five or six people now?
Hold on, hold on. She's opening up.
Talk to us.
Tell us how this occurred.
There was no sexual intercourse, let's say that, on this one.
[DANA] Okay...
Until you all figure out how to communicate
your needs and your desires,
you're gonna have these situations.
And Miss, Ayala, at the very beginning, Ms. Harris said,
she had some concerns about the people that you hanging around with.
Well, those concerns seem to be valid to me because
these people that you are hangin' around with,
as soon as they see you're in a vulnerable position,
they're taking advantage of that.
-Those are not good people to be around. -[WOMAN] That's right.
So, if you're going to move forward,
you either have to get your friends in check or find some new ones.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
It is sad that we don't know what we have, until it's gone.
My prayer is that it's not gone.
And that you will take advantage of our resources...
that we have in the court to help couples
come together and move forward positively.
And as we say in this court room,
please do not cheat yourself out of a chance for a good relationship.
Court is adjourned.
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