I often feel like I can't express my feelings.
Even when just walking by they will say they like it and are supportive.
Foreigners meet, talk and become friends much quicker than we do.
Today we are at Bunka Fashion college which is one of the most famous fashion
colleges in Japan. Today we are gonna ask the stylish people here
When they communicate with other people from foreign countries...
if they think there is a gap in communication.
Or something that is totally different so let's go and Ask Japanese.
When you communicate with foreigners is there some discrepancy, a gap,
when you try to converse?
Of course we speak different languages.
I can only speak in simple words or use a dictionary app to communicate.
So I feel like I can communicate quite well.
People always understand what you say?
Words? No they don't understand me.
But I don't really have a problem.
So you think you can talk quite well?
Yeah somehow.
I was never surprised when chatting with foreigners.
Do you sometimes struggle when communicating with foreigners?
Like not getting your meaning across?
I do yes. When people speak really fast...
The talking speed might be normal for that person but...
I will not be able to follow their speed.
But I often understand things in context or from their expressions.
Gap? Well when speaking with foreigners, many are so kind and exaggerate their reaction.
That makes it easier to understand but when Japanese talk with foreigners ...
we don't show much emotion...
So it might be harder for foreigners to understand us.
Because foreigners exaggerate their emotions I understand them well.
But it made me realize that if I exaggerate my actions, people will understand me better.
I actually can't speak any English.
But foreigners often take active approaches in starting a communication.
That makes it easier for me to join the communication.
And I feel more inclined to tell them the way or explain things.
Even when I speak English, people don't understand me because of my accent.
I am using the right language, but my accent makes people go "What?"
The nuances words have a slightly different.
Even when I get asked about it, it's hard to express my feelings.
Do you want to be able to speak more with foreigners?
If I was able to speak better English, we would be able to understand each other.
When walking around in clothes like these, Japanese people stand out.
Japanese people will draw back a little.
Foreigners will be like "I like your style".
Walking by they will say "I like your style" and be supportive.
That's so different from Japan.
They really tolerate my style. It's great.
They respect people's originality but...
In Japan, when you are different from others, they draw back.
Yeah...
People from abroad say things straightforward.
Oh yes.
Good things and bad things, they say it straight-out without a grudge.
They just tell you.
But Japanese, try not to be too direct.
They will be very ambiguous when they try to express criticism.
But I prefer when people tell me what's up straight out.
I would be happy about that, but if you are too direct some will be surprised.
The way the woe ladies is different too. - They are really into "Ladies first"
I like how they treat women with respect.
Japanese men just brush the topic. Foreigners, really value the "ladies first" thing.
Many foreigners who come to Japan seem to mind their manners more than Japanese.
When you greet them on the street, they greet back very politely.
They won't litter either.
Looking at it like that, I think they are more friendly than Japanese.
I really respect that about foreigners.
Foreigners are not as timid when talking as Japanese.
They will speak with people they just met as if they are friends.
There seem to be more people like that around.
There is no honorific language abroad like Japanese "Keigo".
That depends on the country but there is none in English.
I think that creates a lost in translation moment.
Others might have said it but, foreigners are very frank.
Japanese people are very conscientious.
Japanese bow and are very humble.
I personally want to be more frank too.
But culturally we don't do that as much.
That's definitely a different thing compared to abroad.
Yeah I know what you mean.
I am quite excitable, but foreigners are even more excitable.
And they will find funny situations to make a joke about.
For example during a very serious lecture, they will push in a joke.
Putting a joke in there makes things more fun.
You would not do that in Japan. - People would be too shy to.
Foreigners say things that... Japanese would... never say.
When we feel sorry for someone, we don't say things to protect their feelings...
But foreigners will still say it anyways. I will be like "Why would you say that?!"
At that moment they shouldn't have said that in order not to hurt feelings. - Yeah.
Japanese people are shy.
We don't become friends with someone we just met.
But foreigners will speak with others and become friends there and then.
At this fashion college, we have a large amount of exchange students.
The exchange students become quicker friends than the Japanese students.
Thanks so much for today.
So gap in communication.
One thing that's big is, foreigners are direct, they say what they want
they say where they wanna go. While Japanese people are reluctant to actually say
what they really want to do. They imply certain things...,
or they hold their opinion back. So it's really important that you are able to
read the air and get carefully at that.
That is a mistake that many foreigners do when they come to Japan for the first time.
One example I'd like to give you...
I new a Japanese guy and a German girl.
That was a couple of years ago. The thing is, she liked him...
He liked her. But they missed each other due to communication.
For example...
What I could see from a Western aspect... she really liked him but tried to be tough.
She sometimes did tough jokes
Maybe sometimes sexual jokes because she was trying to hide
her embarrassment that way. She tried to act cool and tough.
Which is a thing that girls in the Western society often do.
While he saw that in a different way in Japan.
Girls are supposed to be cute, they are not supposed to act tough.
He saw it more as a "why did she say that? A women shouldn't be saying that"
He had very strict Japanese standards...
that he tried to apply to her.
And that's how they missed each other.
He he had hold off a little bit his high standarts
that he expected, he expected a women to be more quiet
and calmed down and stuff like that.
If he had opened himself up a bit more to different opportunties
he would have been more open for her. Same thing for her...
She just... did a couple of jokes you shouldn't do cultural wise.
It didn't work and it was really a shame for me to see how they just both
MISSED each other.
That was a real lost in translation communication moment
that I experienced with my two friends there.
Always be careful when you encounter people of a different culture.
Communication is very important.
The more you do even about the things you communicate about, the better.
Try to sort it out. I wish you lots of happiness.
That was our communication topic. Have you ever had problems communicating
something with someone, and that's not even based on language but also on
culture? Let us know, I am looking forward to reading your comment.
There are more videos we took at Bunka fashion college, be sure to check them out.
Catch you soon on Ask Japanese! Bye!
Bunka fashion college is one of the most famous colleges for fashion in Japan.
Many popular designers have studied at this college and graduate school.
Coming to their school festival gives you a chance to see
what the next generation of designers has in store.
CREATIVE and DARING
We are looking forward to seeing what new designs will come from Bunka fashion college.
Which of the fashion styles you have seen today was the best?
Leave us a comment which fashion style you liked the most!
Catch you soon for another video on Ask Japanese.
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