It's a very good idea to set goals,
and it's a very good idea to create conditions that force you to either
accomplish those goals or fail horribly.
Hey guys!
So, good morning, good afternoon.
I am coming to you from the sauna.
I've got a really busy day.
I brought the wrong GoPro to the gym.
I wanted to do this discussion there,
but I had the wrong GoPro, so.
And I'm running out of time.
So, I guess we're going to have to do it in the sauna.
So, today's episode we're going to focus on new year's resolutions,
and we're going to focus on the entire spectrum of ideas and themes related to that.
I think to start off this episode I want to talk a little bit about my 2018 and some of my ideas on resolutions.
So, first thing I'd like to say is I think--
So, looking back, and I've had a lot of times to--
I've taken a lot of time to look back over the last couple of days on my 2018 as a whole,
I would say mostly it was a failure in many ways:
I didn't get done nearly what I should have got done,
I didn't really--
I had goals that I set for myself, and I accomplished goals,
but nothing of the sort that I feel like I'm capable of.
And I also dealt with extreme body pain, energy issues.
And I was mostly unable to resolve them last year.
So, a couple of thoughts on that and that will bring us into some of my resolutions for this year.
First is which--
First of which is, I think I spent last year thinking too much.
And so, one of my big resolutions for this year is just simply think less, to...
Because I know everything that I need to do,
I know the things that I need to do and so, really for me this year is just a matter of doing those things,
and I think the more that I think, the less--
The less that I'm able to do those things, the less that the action that I take is appropriate for those things,
and, so yeah, one of my big resolutions is to think less.
The second one is, I want to be a lot more delusional this year.
Ugh, my hand like burning.
I want to try to be a lot more delusional this year.
So, what does that mean?
When I look back at just the last five years,
and I try to pinpoint, specifically 2012 was a huge year for me, one of my best years.
And when I look at what made that year kind of different from every other year,
I was a lot more delusional,
I set very big goals, and I was very delusional in my approach to accomplish them.
Let me explain:
I think the last couple of years I have consumed a lot of content.
So, I haven't read so much books, but I've definitely watched a lot of YouTube stuff,
but, basically a lot of the ideas of other people, of society, to kind of carve out a place in my mind,
and I don't see this is a good thing.
And I see delusion is kind of a tool that I can use to combat, the realistic expectations,
the realistic--
Like the realism, which isn't even real, and that's another topic for another time.
But kind of the very limiting nature of society, may be better to put it that way.
So, 2011-2012, I competed in an Ironman,
and I'd never even ran more than a block.
And here I was, I spent an entire year and a half training my ass off for an Ironman.
I did really incredible things with my business.
Has my business grown more over the last year?
Yes, but 2011-2012 is when I was really first starting out,
I had no entrepreneur experience, no experience in business.
And so, there was a much bigger--
I progressed at a much faster rate.
And so, and I was very delusional during this time,
I didn't have--
I thought that I could do anything.
And now, lately, when I look at last year, I feel limited.
I don't truly feel like I can do,
I haven't truly felt like I can do anything.
And now, I think using delusion as a tool,
I think that I can do anything again,
and I'm going to stick to that and I'm going to be very delusional as to my approach to that.
So, I have a, you know, really bad knees.
I have a torn meniscus.
I'm taking care of that stuff as quickly as I possibly can.
I just went for an MRI this past Sunday and I'm meeting with the surgeon on the 21st.
One of my big goals for this Dark Mode is to climb a mountain.
So, I think this week, I'm just going to go ahead and basically book the entire excursion,
so, I'm going to figure out where I'm going to go, It's going to be somewhere crazy.
And I'm just going to book it, I'm going to book it six months in advance, eight months in advanced,
and I'm going to commit to it mentally,
I'm going to commit to it financially.
That's just one thing I'm going to commit to.
I'm going to do the same thing with all of my Dark Mode goals.
So, I'm going to set what for the 2018 version of me would have been unrealistic expectations
and I'm going to set, I'm just not going to allow myself to not exceed what is realistic, if that makes sense.
So, I hope that it makes sense.
My hand is burning from holding this camera,
so, I'm going to put it down and we'll see you guys in the next clip.
Meanwhile.
Happy birthday!
All right guys, so
trying to kind of get everything in order with the start of the new year
just finished the meeting with my AgentFire team to discuss everything that we accomplished last year
and basically set the roadmap, expectations, stuff that we should be excited for in 2019,
which there's a lot to be excited for.
So, I'm here with my NelsonQuest team,
brand-new for 2019 as well.
And so, yesterday we were talking about New Year's resolutions,
and I thought it would be fun to maybe have a like a group conversation for you guys.
Also, it's really hard to just talk directly into a camera, as you can see right now in this very moment,
and so, I think it'll help me, and I think one of the things I want to try to incorporate more this year is
is conversation, versus me just talking into a camera, so.
How do we segue into conversations about resolutions?
Now that we have Alejandra and Laura on the team,
I wanted to ask them what their resolutions are? What are their opinions of resolutions?
And just, I don't know,
have some conversation on that theme.
Oh my God!
These videos will get better with practice.
It's their first time on camera so,
we just got to give them a few minutes to warm up.
Also, they both speak English really well, but I think
About new year's resolutions,
I think we are always trying to, I don't know, set goals for the next year
and always thinking about what are we going to do next year,
but I think, I didn't set any goals for this year.
I just want to keep doing what I'm doing.
And I have some goals, yeah, I do have them, but
I think I want to keep going with the things I'm doing,
I'm already working with an awesome team, the NelsonQuest team.
The thing is I want to improve a lot of things I'm doing.
Like, I know I can be better in so many things I'm doing like, in so many areas in my life.
And I think Nelson for example, he is a very good role model for me right now.
That thing could be one of my goals,
try to take something he actually does, and, I don't know, maybe do it.
Yeah, because if you see something all day,
it's easier to be like that.
I agree with you.
We're like, the whole week and the whole day with him,
and just things like, what he's doing,
and I think that that would be a good thing for this year, just learning about him.
Geez, I mean, I don't know what to say now.
I had a whole thing planned and now I feel--
Well, thank you.
Thank you.
[Laura ]: That's the truth.
[Laura]: We didn't have anything.
Yeah, I'll add some thoughts on just resolution as a whole.
So, first of all, I think that New Year's resolutions, at least for me now that the world is more hyper social, so...
10 years ago, I feel like everyone used to set resolutions,
like, everyone used to set resolutions, right?
And now, people are less setting resolutions because everyone knows that everyone fails on their resolutions.
So now, like more and more--
So for example, the most common resolution is going to the gym, right?
And I think 10 years ago, people used to set that goal and then they would fail,
but it wasn't like a known global phenomenon that people were always failing in their resolutions.
Now, because there's so much social media,
now there are so many memes about people that go to the gym the day after New Year's,
and they continue for a few days and then they stop.
But it was kind of interesting to observe that.
10 years ago that didn't happen, people just would set resolutions and fail at them.
Now, I think people are more hesitant to set resolutions, especially like the gym,
like, so I've been going to the gym these last couple of days,
I haven't seen the tremendous amount of people that I'm used to seeing
and I think that's because people are less hopeful for their resolutions.
And there's a good reason for that, it's because the entire premise of a resolution is,
not that it's flawed, but it's poorly executed.
And so I think there are some good lessons there.
One is that I think to...
I think, and I mentioned this in a previous video,
but I think it's not like--
It's a very good idea to set goals,
and it's a very good idea to create conditions that force you to either accomplish those goals or fail horribly.
So, when I say that, I think that if you're going to go to the gym,
you should buy a membership for a year.
And this way, if you fail, if you fail, you should fail horribly.
You should fail horribly.
In 2011, when I had my epiphany moment,
I decided I was going to do an Ironman.
And so, the same day that I had my epiphany,
I bought a plane ticket, and I purchased my entrance to the event,
which wasn't for another year and a half.
And so, I basically, I committed to it.
I didn't just set a goal and say I'm going to do this,
I literally committed mentally and financially to this thing,
and so, if I failed, I was going to fail in a big way.
Because I think if we're going to fail, we should really feel it.
And failure is not something--
I don't want to talk about failure because I feel like that's so cliche,
but I think that when it comes to goals
we should not just look at the goal as if it exists in and of itself, because I think that's where people mess up,
I think when you look at a goal, you have to look at what are the stuff that I need to get to the goal,
what are the individual steps and then how can I--
and then, on a day-to-day basis, look at how I can be a little bit better every day,
a little bit more capable of achieving this goal.
Because it is just a step by step process.
When you set a goal, and you set a very--
You set a goal of, let's say, going to the gym every day for the next year,
not only is that a big goal, but it kind of negates what is involved in actually manifesting that goal,
which are the individual things, like every single day,
I mean if you want to get really micro, that means every single day you need to wake up,
you need to take a shower or you need to put your one gym sneaker on then you need to put the next step,
like, that's really--
Those are the sort things that you need to look at, I think,
as far as accomplishing a goal, versus just looking at the at the end.
Like, the end, goal itself is like a North Star, right?
But it's something that guides you
it's something that you should visualize and see,
but it's really, it's the individual steps and figuring out:
"Okay, how do I really create the sort of conditions to manifest this goal?"
"How do I create the the conditions, like, realistic and even perhaps unrealistic,
unrealistic in the sense that maybe your friends or family or society
has given you the perception that it's not realistic, but realistic to you.
Like, realistic to you it's really what's important.
Again, I mentioned this earlier, but I think I got away from that in 2018.
I just consumed too much content and I started following,
a lot of my perceptions became predicated in these like rules of society that I just fundamentally don't agree with,
and I am at my best when I am fighting against these rules
and doing things that are outside of what I'm supposed to be able to do, if that makes sense.
So,
Gone a little off topic here, but I think--
So, as far as resolutions go, again, I think it's a--
New Year's is more, like it's better to take time to reflect on the previous year,
and really reflect on what were our goals of the previous year,
Why did we not accomplish them?
And how do we create rules and conditions that will help us to actually be able to accomplish our goals in the new year.
The idea of New year itself, setting goals and then just embarking on them,
I mean, a lot of flaws again,
If you look at most of the goals you've set for yourself over previous years,
you probably failed at most of them.
I failed that most--
Pretty much every resolution I've ever set for myself, if was like a very specific thing,
I failed, and I think a lot of that is because it's not good to,
on a very base level,
saying that we're going to start doing something tomorrow,
like, if we have the idea to do something or we set a goal for ourselves,
what I found is I need to take action immediately on that and that's a very big shift.
The saying that I'm going to do something tomorrow, shifting that to:
"No, I'm going to start right now, right this second. Doesn't matter what I'm doing."
That's a huge shift.
And that's something that could happen overnight,
but for me, it's something that I had to develop a habit.
Like, when you think of habits, you think of gym? you think of healthy nutrition?
But habits are across all dimensions.
And so, the habit of just doing now what you previously would have said that you were going to do tomorrow,
I think is one of the strongest habits certainly that I've been able to develop.
And so,that's my perspective on New Year's resolutions.
I think I need this conversation because I don't have any plans.
I was a person that never have a plan,
and this year it's totally, really different.
I don't know, it's a good topic.
I actually have a lot of dreams I want to reach, and
I want to set many goals for me, but
what Nelson said,
I think we should set the goals like,
realistic goals for us, like we think we could really reach those goals,
and then start doing it, like you said,
like you gotta commit with those goals like financially, with everything,
so when you fail, you actually are going to feel it.
And I think that I need to do that.
I need to do that.
And last thing I'll add too,
I think this maybe is even the most important point, for me at least,
is realistic goals.
So, I think, as we come to understand who we are like authentically, in my experience,
In my experience, a lot of the realistic goals that I've set for myself have been,
everyone else would consider very unrealistic.
So, like I'm at a point now where people don't really doubt me as much.
Like, when I was first starting out, so in 2011 when I had my epiphany and I started training for the Ironman,
and I said "I have these goals for my business and for everything else",
everyone doubted me.
And very much enjoyed that, but--
I mean, the doubt was nice, like it's like a fuel, but--
I guess what I'm saying is what was realistic for me was unrealistic for everyone around me.
And so, for 2019 I want to be more delusional,
I want to be more unrealistic in the eyes of everyone else,
but in a way that is very realistic for me.
I think we all should start with small things.
I guess, I think like we all have like this small things that they don't let us improve or I don't know.
I don't know what to say, but I know we all should start with small things.
For me, that's realistic.
And, if I'm going to start, I've got to start with something
because if I set these goals, these big goals,
and I failed,
like I'm going to feel horrible.
I've got to start with something I know I can do,
and I actually going to accomplish that.
But, if you can do something bigger, why not?
But, the best thing is to start now.
I think that's that.
Start now. Today.
I guess the last thing I'll add is,
the habit of just doing things, again, now in place of tomorrow,
that's probably the single greatest habit that I have.
Hands down.
Also, the idea of setting small goals and accomplishing them,
I think, if I were giving advice to my previous self,
I'm already at a point where I've proven to myself that I can do things,
but for most of my life, I had basically proven to myself that I couldn't do things.
So, because for most of my life, I mean for most of my life, from the age of 13 to 27,
pretty much every single goal that I set for myself I failed at, or at the very least, I fell short,
even the goals that I thought were realistic to myself.
So, I had an entire lifetime of basically proving to myself that I was not capable of doing anything.
So, it was only when I, and that's why I say if you fail you may as well just fail big,
because it was when I reached the absolute bottom that I actually finally--
it was for me, and this may be same for you guys,
but for me, it was literally like a matter of life and death at that point.
I was so depressed I didn't see, I couldn't see any lights.
I didn't have any faith in myself at all.
And so, there was a moment where I just, basically had to decide,
like I couldn't continue to live like that.
Like, just failing at everything and feeling the way I was feeling and, so.
I had, in this moment, this switch, but
since then what's changed, Nelson now,
now I've proven to myself that I can bend--
In understanding the rules, that I can bend them.
I can really create my own rules, and I can do things that are unrealistic for most people.
Because I've proven it to myself.
It's interesting because words like "faith", for example, we tend to think of in a very religious context,
but faith,
faith transforms into proof,
It's very powerful.
And so, I think when you set a goal for yourself, the first part of that is having faith in your ability to do it,
and then to actually be proactive and take action to convert that into proof,
and to prove to yourself that you can actually do the thing that you said you were going to do
and if you could just do that once
if you can just do it once, you have the proof
and you can build on it.
Speaking of that, I guess we should probably get back to work.
I have some goals for today that I'm running pretty behind on.
And we have some big goals with the channel too, so.
Bye!
Anyway guys,
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If you have any comments or questions for me,
comments about some of the stuff that we discussed in this video,
I think we started to get somewhat deep into the idea of resolutions and manifesting goals,
I could talk for a few hours about this stuff.
And so hopefully what was presented to you guys is clear and makes sense,
and it can be actionable for you guys.
But, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below.
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or stuff that's worked for you in the past to achieve your resolutions, your goals,
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Man, this is a lot of stuff to throw at you guys.
Try to just do one of the things that I just mentioned and I'll really appreciate it.
So, thanks guys.
Good luck in 2019.
Hopefully you guys will stick with me throughout the year.
This should be a really interesting year for myself, and for the channel,
and I hope it's a really awesome year for you guys as well.
See you guys in the next video.
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